Feeling sad and oh so guilty

[dizzydo]

I took our beloved cat to the vet this morning to have him put to sleep. He was 15 and had been poorly for quite a while, so so thin and was getting hard to look after in terms of little "accidents" etc. It was horrible at the vets although nothing to do with them they were absolutely wonderful Just didnt expect to feel quite so awful and at half three I have to break it to the children that he has "died".

Please dont post and tell me how awful I am just wanted to tell someone.

dizzydo, we have had to have cats put to sleep because of v serious illness. It is really awful and very sad. They are part of the family and you need to grieve.

That's awful.

Why would anyone say you were awful? You have obviously done the right thing but still very .

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Of course you're not awful. You gave him 15 years of love, nothing can take that away. If he was ill then you have done the best thing for him.

We did the same thing with our cat last Xmas, Dizzydo. Sadly, it's one of the things we're called upon to do as responsible pet owners, but to neglect our duty would be far worse. Take care.

15 years is a great life span for a cat.. You did the right thing..

We did it to our family dog as he was old and sick.

Its not fare on the animal when there old and tired and sick..

Dont feel bad you have given your cat some good years just think of them..

Had to do this to my beloved dog when he was 15- it was so upsetting.

Thank you so much all for your words of sympathy. My DD's were understandly heartbroken and it will be a long time getting over him it does help to know others have been through this to if that makes sense.
dizzydo
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hi i think my cat might be pregnant havnt got a clue about how long the pregnancy is or anything any ideas or facts that you would like to share would be grately appreciated....

oh im really sorry meant to start a new thread ..sorry

Hi Dizzydo I'm so sorry for the loss of your cat, I know exactly what your going through, I had to have my 13yr old cat put to sleep last month, it really is hard and please allow yourself to grieve, I'm sure like me you will come to realise the you did the best thing for your beloved cat and do as another poster suggested remember the lovely memories. thinking of you.

Do you have a garden? You could maybe go out at the weekend and get a rose bush or something in memory... or maybe make a little photo album that your dds could help with to remember the good times.
Well done for being brave enough to do it.

Don't feel bad, dizzydo. You did the kindest thing you could have done, in the end. I really believe that we have a duty to our pets not to make them endure worse suffering than they have to. That doesn't make it any harder, when it comes to it, though, does it? We had to have our 16-year-old dog put down a year ago, and it was awful. I don't know how old your dds are, but my dd (who was 4 at the time) came up with a formula which she found quite comforting. She kept repeating 'Bobby has gone out of the world'. We don't have any real religious belief, so we didn't do 'doggy heaven' or any such thing, and she seemed to find this concept of just 'leaving' comprehensible and non-scary in a way. Both girls still talk about Bobby all the time, and often ask me to tell them stories about him (... he was, in his day, a very funny dog... the description of his phobia about motorway bridges is a particular favourite!)

We had Bobby cremated and scattered his ashes on the beach, which was his favourite place in the world. It seemed fitting. We didn't involve the dds in this, though, as I thought that at their age the idea of the cremation and seeing the ashes might be too scary.

Thinking of you dizzydo. You did the right thing.