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Husband took his own life after gambling

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LukesLaw · 30/07/2021 06:30

I tried posting this on a gambling thread but I cannot see the post and I have posted it on a bereavement thread. I just need everyone's help but I am sure you will undertand why when you read it. Sorry for the long post.
Gambling: My husband took his own life 3 months ago. We had an amazing life and we loved each other so much. We were always together unless we were at work and we have 2 lovely children together. We were childhood sweethearts and I honestly did not see this coming. I am devastated beyond words and feel completely lost without him. I love him so much.
After he had taken his life, the police gave me his phone back and when I went through it I discovered that he had been gambling (a lot) and had got loans to pay for his addiction. He had only been gambling a few months- since he was furloughed- but it got hold of him enough for him to completely lose control and unfortunately do what is the worst mistake he ever made. He didn't want to die, he was a proper grafter and a family man. He loved life. We could have sorted it together but he must have felt like it was his problem and he was taking it with him. Of course, this is not true.
After looking into his betting account, I found that he placed a free bet and then won some money, which he put back in and won some more. He then carried on but the losses soon outweighed the wins. When he lost and ran out of money on his account, another free bet dropped into his account and the cycle repeated. I am obviously angry as hell.
I have started a campaign to ban so called 'Free Bets' (THEY ARE NOT FREE, they are designed to keep you putting money back into the system) and I am hoping I can help prevent the same thing happening again to other men, women, young adults. If any of you can help me by signing,
I would really appreciate it. This is the one thing that is keeping me going at the minute because I don't know what else to do. If you google Luke's Law, my twitter and facebook stories come up as well as the petition.
I will post it here but I am not sure if its allowed so it may get deleted.
petition.parliament.uk/petitions/587806

OP posts:
WoodenSpoonsAreGreat · 30/07/2021 13:04

💐 I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you.

I've signed the petition and thank you for bringing this to our attention.

Wishingwell75 · 30/07/2021 13:19

Happy to have signed it. I am so sorry for your loss.
Also so angry about the way these betting companies operate.
By both talking about your husband's experience and the work you are doing with the petition you very well might prevent someone else from taking their own life and leaving their family. 💐

chorizoTapas · 30/07/2021 13:25

Signed. Sorry for your loss, keep going with this great cause 🌸

TheCrowening · 30/07/2021 16:33

I’ve signed and shared it. I’m so sorry for your loss.

crankysaurus · 30/07/2021 16:47

Bump to keep this in active.

listsandbudgets · 30/07/2021 17:21

bumpity bump.

I've shared your petition on Twitter OP.

LukesLaw · 30/07/2021 17:48

Thank you all. Is that how it works, the comments bump it up? I didnt realise. I will keep bumping it too! You have all been so supportive, thank you for continuing to help me. The signatures have slowed right down now, I'm not sure if it is because the thread was moved.

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pantherrose · 30/07/2021 18:06

Bump -needs to stay in active!

LukesLaw · 30/07/2021 18:08

I am so gutted that this thread was moved. The support was phenomenal where it was and now it doesn't get seen and signed. Really gutted.

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Frezia · 30/07/2021 18:16

I'm so sorry for your loss Thanks I just signed the petition. Thanks to all the posters who bumped it so it stays in active threads.

LukesLaw · 30/07/2021 18:19

@Frezia

I'm so sorry for your loss Thanks I just signed the petition. Thanks to all the posters who bumped it so it stays in active threads.
Thank you. 💙
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Sackofnickles · 30/07/2021 18:22

My partner ended his own life, not due to gambling though. I'm so sorry for you and your family Thanks

I've signed the petition.

Nicecupofteaandacake · 30/07/2021 18:28

I'm sorry for your loss OP - signed and totally agree with you

LukesLaw · 30/07/2021 18:40

@Sackofnickles
So sorry! The grief is unreal. Hope you are ok?

Thank you both for taking the time to sign it. Means so much to me 💙

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springiscoming12 · 30/07/2021 18:47

Signed OP. Im really sorry for your loss Flowers

LadyInParis · 30/07/2021 19:19

@JorisBohnson2

To clarify, are you saying no one can question what you are doing?

please do not question the importance of what I am doing

Just so that everyone knows

To clarify- do you have a point besides passively aggressively kicking the boot in, to someone in a great deal of pain and trying to do something at least? Small things can lead to big changes. You seem to be being pointlessly critical on a really sensitive subject- to a poster enduring a great deal of pain. This is more than cruel. Is this what you mean to do?

Just so that everyone knows.

Terrysmyorange · 30/07/2021 19:21

Signed and sorry for your loss Thanks

LauraAshleySofa · 30/07/2021 19:41

Signed and shared on social media. Not read the full thread but are you using a hashtag? If so, I will share again but with the hashtag.

LukesLaw · 30/07/2021 19:44

@LauraAshleySofa

Signed and shared on social media. Not read the full thread but are you using a hashtag? If so, I will share again but with the hashtag.
Hi Laura, yes #Lukeslaw That is so kind of you, thank you.
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RuthTopp · 30/07/2021 19:45

Sorry for the loss of your dh.
Signed.

Nohomemadecandles · 30/07/2021 19:54

Bumped again x

SwanShaped · 30/07/2021 19:55

Signed. Just had a look at your Twitter. I had no idea that you could get in so deep so quickly.

LukesLaw · 30/07/2021 19:58

@SwanShaped

Signed. Just had a look at your Twitter. I had no idea that you could get in so deep so quickly.
Yes, unbelievable that my husband was here and then took his life and then finding out that gambling was the reason and how quickly it spirralled. It has been a nightmare. Still cannot quite get my head around it. None of us can.
OP posts:
shenanigans5 · 30/07/2021 20:02

Signed OP Flowers

StillUpholding · 30/07/2021 20:04

This is a subject close to my heart OP, and I had no hesitation in signing. I’m very grateful that my loved one managed to seek help and is in recovery. It is a horrendous addiction. I’m so sorry for your loss, but you’re doing your DH proud Flowers

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