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Can you get DD and me a towel please? OR can you get dd and I a towel please?

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PavlovtheCat · 09/01/2009 00:11

Which one is correct?

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moondog · 09/01/2009 00:13

gOLDEN RULE IS TAKE OUT THE 'dd' bit and see if it still makes sense grammatically. Therefore it is 'get dd and me a towel please'


SuperBunny · 09/01/2009 00:14

DD and me

because if it were just you, you'd say, 'Can you get me a towel' not 'can you get I a towel'

Being pedantic, I would say 'will you' rather than 'can' because if I were asking someone to get me a towel I would already know they were able to do it.

beanieb · 09/01/2009 00:15

Me, for the reason Moondog and Superbunny gave.

PavlovtheCat · 09/01/2009 00:15

Thank you.
So, what is the 'dd' bit, in terms of english verbs/proverbs/nouns etc, what is that called?

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Quattrocento · 09/01/2009 00:16

Agree with the others except I might say "Would you" rather than "Will you"

nula · 09/01/2009 00:17

the subject noun

beanieb · 09/01/2009 00:17

or 'can you' Quattro ?

PavlovtheCat · 09/01/2009 00:19

I am very happy.

One morning, my DH told me off when I asked him 'can you get dd and me a towel please', he told me I should use 'i' not 'me', in that 'i am much more educated than thou' voice. I explained to him he was wrong and why, and he refused to beleive me. I said everything you have stated here, and he still refused.

We agreed the only way to settle it was for me to ask the pendants, with an unbiased question so you did not know which one was me, and which was him.

. I knew i was correct!

Thank you also for advising me on the 'can; and 'will', I will be sure to use this in future, avoids him thinking he has a choice in the matter!

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PavlovtheCat · 09/01/2009 00:20

Is that another thread then? "should I use 'will you' or 'would you' our 'can you' when asking some-one do do something?!!!

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PavlovtheCat · 09/01/2009 00:22

So dd=noun. It makes me sound much more educated if I am able to tell DH which bit is the addtional bit

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SuperBunny · 09/01/2009 00:30

Hmm, I debated 'would' and 'will'

Why is it would?

SuperBunny · 09/01/2009 00:32

Am glad you were right, Pavloc.

DD is a noun. A proper noun. But I think this has more to do with the subject/ object etc and stuff I don't really understand. I may well be wrong.

nula · 09/01/2009 00:36

tell him he should get the towel without being asked.

Better still he can do bath time.

That way noone gets to argue over the wording

PavlovtheCat · 09/01/2009 00:38

nula lol! If I took out the whole 'me' 'dd' stuff, and shouted 'get us towels!!!!' that would be much easier wouldn't it? I like it.

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nula · 09/01/2009 00:45

good plan

alexpolismum · 10/01/2009 13:59

Just to add my tuppence worth - I don't think that dd in your sentence as given above is a subject noun. In fact, I would have said that it is an indirect object.

I would break it down as follows:

Can(1) you(2) get(3) Jane(4) and me(5) a towel(5)?

1 - Auxillary verb
2 - subject pronoun
3 - main verb
4 - indirect object (proper noun)
5 - indirect object (object pronoun)
6 - direct object

Now you can sound even more educated when telling dh!

foxytocin · 10/01/2009 14:03

go to the top of the class polismum, except, t'm sure you know that towel is (6)

alexpolismum · 10/01/2009 14:08

oops! thanks foxy!

BlueSapphire77 · 10/01/2009 14:15

I'm the master of being pedantic at times... i'd have told him to shut his gob and be thankful i said please and not NOW

NotPlayingAnyMore · 10/01/2009 15:24

I'm with Nula. Who gives a monkeys about the wording when you and DD have finished and just getting as cold as the bath is?

Tell him he should be grateful you at least said "please"!

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