HELP: Supper, dinner, tea dilemma

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

Invited to a bash at the weekend where the invite states 'casual, supper and drinks'. It's at 7.30pm. To me supper is a bit of toast and a cuppa whilst watching the news but I know that it's a heck of a lot more in some circles so could someone please enlighten me so I know whether to have my dinner before I go. The hostess/host are a bit posh.

I think you will be getting a light meal, though more than toast

I'd read supper as a meal. DH and I have a class warfare issue over this: he says supper, I say tea

I wouldn't eat beforehand

If it's 7.30 then surely it will be a main meal? Supper - to me - would mean that it's a more casual meal as opposed to a posh, formal dinner party.

here

www.putlearningfirst.com/language/12dial/dinner.html

I would have a bite to eat with the kids at 5pm and assume there was a light meal at supper.
Not a dinner invite so I would assume not a 5 course banquet.

It'll be a normal-sized, nice meal, I reckon.
Just not on bone china with linen napkins...

at least we are not middle class (phew)

Blimey, I think I'll just refer to all meals as food in future to avoid confusion.

Effie my DH and I also argue about dinner and tea. I always say dinner because that's what we had at home but he always says tea for the same reason. I think technically we are both right and wrong. My Mum always cooked at least two courses so referred to it as dinner even if it was served around 5pm. His Mum only ever served one course thus it was called tea (also served at 5pm).

Ah, see link. You are middle class and your DH os working class (apparantly)

I must tell him, that will amuse him greatly as I'm from a council scheme and he considers himself a bit posh coming from a country town where everyone farts about wearing tweeds. Both his parents came from council schemes though.

On reading link I think my Mum was just trying to be posh calling it dinner. Perhaps she had aspirations

What was it then?
I like the "pud but no starter" definition. And the boots not spindly heels guide.

I would expect supper (in those circs) to be solider than dinner - think fish pie.

Also, you'll probably have eaten it in the enormous farmhouse kitchen as opposed to at the shiny table in the cold, dark-red-wallpaper-hung dining room. (Where actually you would need the boots, but be feeling shivery in the spindly heels.)

Well you were all sooooo right

It was a hot buffet, in their farmhouse kitchen and on offer was lasagne, thai curry, rice, green salad, some other sort of salad and then there were several types of pudding. All very yummy.

Some were hugely over dressed, no-one under dressed and I think I got it right with a pair of tweedy type trousers, nice boots and a hippy looking cardi.