Me and Dave, Dave and Me, or Dave and I?

[SlinkyB]

Please can someone tell me which example I use when?

Some friends caption photos on fb with "Dave and I", but I thought that was incorrect for some reason? I always think it looks too posh for common-as-muck little ol' me, so never use it anyway!

Does anyone have a quick and easy way to remember, pretty please? I'm such a novice with grammar so be gentle

Yes. It should be "On behalf of my husband and me".

I told dh about that and that he had better not do that in his speech or I would divorce him.

We all know that everyone loves to cheer when the groom says "my wife and I", so bloody say "my wife and I would like to thank you" or something, rather than "on behalf of my wife and someone who can't construct a sentence"
The guests will cheer as soon as you say "my wife and I", they don't need the little run up where you make yourself look like an illiterate idiot.

I think your "myself" example will just confuse you even more as it's another example of bad grammar.

'Me' and 'I' are different pronouns in the same way 'she' and 'her' are. One is used for the subject of the sentence ('she patted the dog') and the other for the object of the sentence ('the dog patted her' - contrived example I know!)

So a photo with a picture of you in it is 'a picture of me', not 'a picture of I'. If the picture contains you and Dave, it's 'Dave and me', unless your caption is more descriptive, i.e. 'Dave and I walked along this beach earlier, it was great'. It's true that the 'me' tends to come towards the end of the sentence and the 'I' towards the beginning but I wouldn't use that as the basis for the rule.

Attempting to look posh is one of the reasons people get this wrong; better to be wrong than pretentious and wrong is what I say!

Have a look at this for more info.

Exactly trib! You've hit the nail on the head with your last line. I've a friend who was educated at a very naice school, and she always captions photos "X and I".

It grates! I put "Me and X" and I feel like it's wrong, even though it isn't

Will look at link later - thanks.

Nickel- after his ( grammatically correct) speech, a couple of people 'jokingly' admonished my husband for not using 'my wife and I' . It is really irritating that most people assume 'I' is always correct. Even if they did nothing other than, say, listen to the news and model that ' on behalf of Sarah and me...good morning'!

I am generally fairly relaxed about spoken language (unlike in written language where I am fiercely pedantic) but mixing up I and me makes me want to scream: "ME! Sometimes it's just ME!"

One of my colleagues went on maternity leave recently. On her last day she wanted photos with everyone so she kept saying, for example: "Can you take a photo of Liz and I?" By the end of the day I wanted to beat her round the head with her camera.

She also uses I's which is something I've never heard anyone else say. As in 'my husband and I's car...'

OUR. For the love of god, just say OUR.

I've heard 'my husband and I's car' as well - incredible.

That one is tricky, because people don't realise that you need the possessive on husband too.

So it' "my husband's and my car"

They know they can't say "my's" and wouldn't put "mine" so they say "i's"
"Mine" would make me less stabby....

Surely you would just say "our car". Or in fact "my car". (What's yours is mine.)

How about "the car of my husband and me"?

the car of my husband and me sounds like senior school German

yes, "our car" makes more sense - providing everyone knows you mean mine and my husband's