I'm sitting here feeling really shit.

[LynetteScavo]

DD took her 5th birthday party invitations into school today.

It transpires that the birthday child hands out the invitations at the end of the day (when children are sitting on the carpet).

So the children who don't get an invitation are all too aware they are missing out.

I had accidentally missed out one boy (DD wanted to invite all the boys and none of the girls) so will be sending his invitation in tomorrow.

But DD has had some comments from the other girls such as "I'm not your friend I don't like you, and I didn't want to come to your party anyway".

I'm feeling so bad that because of DD's party some children have been left feeling bad. So now I feel I have to send in invitations for the girls she is (was) friendly with.

DD has only been invited to 2 parties this year, (I think because the rest of the class went to the school nursery)and I did wonder how she knew when there was a party she wasn't invited to, but presumed the other children had been talking about it. Now I know.

Oh that is

at ds school they discreetly put the invites into relevant childs bookbag.

Saves such a scenario

omg that's awful! i would have serious words with the teacher if i were you.

Oh god - I am dreading the party minefield.

Sorry you're feeling shit, Lynette. Don't really know what to advise though

That is a dreadful way to distribute invites.

At Ds's school they are placed in bookbags provided all the boys/girls or whole class are invited. If its just a few then they have to be sent in the post.

I know not all children can be invited but thats just a cruel way of handing out invites.

the school should not do that

I wouldn't hand out invitations to the class unless the whole class were invited.

Hi - I don't think you should worry - if that's the school policy there will be disappointed kids every time someone has a party. My DD is nearly 5 and is very aware about who she'd like to invite - I don't get a look in really and I think we have to respect that. She's been invited to some parties I never expected her to (hadn't even heard the child's name mentioned) and not invited to ones I really did think she would be. It's just the way it is. Girl's of this age seem to say every 5 minutes "you're not my friend because...". I really wouldn't take it too seriously. We're all in the same boat - none of us want to organise a wedding sized birthday party and we all completely understand that numbers are limited and we can't all be invited to all the parties. And it's an important lesson for kids to learn too.
Don't worry - stick to your plan and have a lovely time.
Best wishes.