40th Birthday Suggestion - thoughts?

[Mowgli1970]

It's my 40th in July and having ummed and aahed over what to do, I think I've decided on having it at my house, split into two parts. Afternoon tea at 4pm for the older relatives and those with young babies, then an evening party with music, dancing and drinking starting about 7. Do I send separate invites, or invite everyone to both parties? I was planning on it being family and close friends in the afternoon, then inviting more people in the evening. If people were coming to both, what would they do in between parties iyswim? How would I word the invites to avoid offending those who aren't invited to the afternoon bit? Sorry to be a pleb, I'm not used to party organisation!

i'd have them on different days! if you're worried about your elderly relatives boring your cool friends, or your friends being outrageous in front of conservative relatives you're not going to be totally relaxed and able to fully enjoy it. extract full mileage out of your fortieth and have two parties, go on, you're worth it. Enjoy them both for the two different types of parties that they'll be.

Would you send both invites to all guests and let them choose which one to attend?

I think I would invite them just to the one you want them to be at. Any you're not sure of, have a chat with them before sending out invitation; some with young children may wnat to get babysitters and have a night out.

Thinking about the practicalities; what are you going to do with old Aunty Mavis at 7pm if she doesn't want to be ushered out of the door but would prefer another sherry?

Maybe you could word it along the lines of "afternoon tea at 4pm - children very welcome. Night-time party starts at 7pm - please book a babysitter!

RSVP if you will be coming to tea or party or both".