Cake protocol

[cuppycakesong]

Is it wrong to serve and eat the cake at the actual birthday party? The party bags I have prepared are so full nothing else fits inside and giving the cake in a napkin in addition to the party bag I feel is just too much. So I was thinking to serve the cake with ice cream and jelly, is that just weird?

Of course it's not weird. Do whatever you want.

good idea.

It's just that my DC always come home with a piece of cake from birthday parties they go to, and my DH says that eating the cake at the party is 'not the done thing'. Worried about cake etiquette, how ridiculous!

well my dc's don't eat cake anyway so i just end up chucking it in the bin

Go for it - as you say - who cares what the "etiquette" is - but make it crystal clear at the time - IIWY I would bring out the cake before other sweet stuff, otherwise they will all be full and it won't get eaten.

My DC are not big cake eaters and our chickens are usually the beneficiarys of cake in party bags.

(it does help fill up the party bags, though!)

I often serve the cake to the adults with a cup of tea - of course the children can have some if they want it too. I've generally covered mine in buttercream so it's horrible if you wrap it in a napkin!

The cake was the sweet food at DD's party - no cake in party bag.

Ah ok brilliant, so I'm not going to come across as an oddball. Stewie, in Europe we eat the cake at the party, in fact, eating cake is what the party is all about AND, presents get opened at the party in front of everyone and people get thanked there and then. Maybe it's the British who do things 'differently' then?

always serve mine at the party!

We've always eaten it at DS's parties until this year (when we were running late so it was easier just to put it in the party bags) and the cake is eaten at the party at the majority of parties he's been to; I can only think of one or two instances out of what must be 30+ parties where the cake has been sent home in the party bag.

It's nice to share your cake with your friends.

As said in Europe its the done thing to have the cake at the party and open the presents with everybody so you say a proper thank you to the person. Mind you its normal here to bring along brothers and sisters to parties if you can't park them with somebody else.