Adult party - paying for place

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I've had a couple of invitations recently to friends' parties recently that have been along the lines of:

On x date I am doing x you are invited to come. Please can I have your money of £x by x date.

Now I have always been of the opinion that if you are holding a party, and invite people you pay the bill. But this doesn't seem to be the case.

I am now thinking this would make good economic sense to do the same thing myself for a party I'm having.

So basically I would like your opinions as to whether having to pay for a party, would put you off, or unphased, or how about if a party costs me £20 a head, I asked for £10 would that be unreasonable?

it would put me off tbh, i'd think it was quite rude to invite me to a party and then ask me for the money for it.

like you say to start with, if you have a party you pay for it! if you can't afford it don't do it

If it was a meal in the pub then yes I would expect to pay but not at a venue, don't mind a cash bar but wouldn't be happy to pay for anything else.

That seems fair enough to me, I have x amount of budget, and would go for the number of guests up to my budget.

Like I say only intrigued just from the invites I have received.

I guess it depends on the party.

Also, I suppose, what is the difference between a "party" and organising a night out?

These have been 'functions' rather than nights out -
one was a privately hired skittles evening with basket meal (£12 per head)
and
one was a privately hired space with buffet (£10 per head)

Now you see weirldy wouldn't mind paying for the skittles one but would object to the buffet.

also I had been invited to a greyhound birthday party, that was £15 for meal. I saw that as more a night out though.

i think there is a big difference in saying "we're going down the pub, would you like to come?" where you know of course you[ll ahve to pay for food/drink
or, we';re thinking of going to the greyhounds, it'll be £15 each would you like to come?

and inviting you to a party, then asking you to pay.

just seems wrong!