Is it bad to not include nephews and nieces at kids birthday parties?

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I am thinking of booking a party somewhere for my 6 year old dd but my budget only allows me a maximum of 8 kids.
I've got 2 nephews and nieces but only one is about dd's age (5). I can't just invite her and leave the babies out (1 year old and 2 year old) surely?
Can I?

Sorry I meant 3 nephews and nieces.

I would just invite teh 5 yr old and explain why.

Perfectly okay to not invite 1 and 2 year old.

Even if her 3 year old brother is coming?
I would just feel too cruel but if it's a done thing in this country I guess I wouldn't feel as bad.

I dont always invite nephews/ nieces.
Am sure they will understand.

What about doing an additional little tea for the younger ones at home?

It is tricky isn't it. We have a similar predicament. DD is four in May and doesn't like being the centre of attention. I'm planning on a small party for her at home with about the ame number of children as you.

We have numerous nieces and nephews and even great-nieces/nephews. We have friends with children who invite DD to their parties.

But I know DD wouldn't enjoy a big party, with lots of people she barely knows, so we're keeping it to the children she is closest to. At the end of the day it is her party and we are tailoring it to suit her. Hopefully people will understand this, but if not then so be it I'm afraid.

Hmmmm 3 year old is difficult - my son is 3 and would be gutted not to be invited. Your OP said 1 + 2 year old which is lots different imo.

No what I mean is that my ds (dd's brother) is coming and is 3 year old. Not a nephew who's 3 year old.
So is it still ok to exclude the 1&2 year old?

Can you have a separate family tea-party on a different day?

The 1 & 2 yr olds themselves won't know they're missing anything anyway, will they? Their parents might mind but you've a perfectly reasonably explanation (the limited numbers), & a 3-yr-old sibling is not the same as a toddler cousin