Would you like to be invited to this party

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If a friend of a friend is having a party, and you don't know the hosts that well but 2 sets of your good friends are going, would you like to be invited to the party too?

I wouldn't expect to be invited but I would like it if I was and I would go if I could make the dates.

Not really, no. If you don't know the hosts you can't really be expected to be invited unless it's a big student mosh where the house gets trashed.

But if I was invited and my two friends were going then I might go.

If you haven't been invited, have you thought about either gatecrashing or maybe just looking in at the window?

If I didn't know the hosts I wouldn't care about going.

No
Smacks of desperation (on both sides)

I would go .I love parties and the host is probably just trying to get a good mix of people .

Sorry, don't mean to do a thread by stealth - I am the host and wondered if it would be nice to invite a couple I know a little bit but not as well as I know their friends.

Bollox does it smack of desperation.

It is a compliment, it just means the hosts already like you and want to get to know you better. If no one ever made moves like this we'd miss out on loads of opportunities to make new friends out of acquaintances.

If you like the couple and want to get to know them better, then by all means invite them.

Cripes, I'd find an excuse - any excuse - not to go if I were invited by the friend of a friend whom I didn't know very well. Does that help?

It would be nice to invite them I think but not necessary.

I would if it was all girls

Probably not if couples

I'm not too bothered about whether they come (although nice if they do, obviously), just not sure if it would be a nice gesture to invite them or if it would be a bit odd.

The couple in question also only live round the corner so we see them in the street quite a bit.

All sounds a bit "key's in" to me.

(but its very nice of you to offer)

LOL no!!!!

Although I am wondering if another house in my area has parties along those lines ever since I read a thread the other day mentioning that pampas grass was a sign of swinging - it's in the front garden though if that makes a difference!

Yes invite them, it's nice.

Hmm I still feel a bit shy about inviting them, what about if I ask our mutual friend first if she thinks they would appreciate an invitation?

Then she can sort of forewarn her friend in the couple and "warm up" the invitation slightly in that way (though that does sound rather "key's in")?

why not have an A list and B list and if some A listers drop out, invite them then. Why are you shy of inviting them? they can always say no if they don;t want to come...

I once did this - invited a couple who I kind of knew and who were very friendly with some friends of mine - and they did seem to find it a bit odd. I worried afterwards that they thought it was desperate of me, but I tend to worry about things like that too much. I guess it also depends on what kind of party it is - big bash or smaller dinner thing - and whether the other people coming are all from a group of friends and this couple would therefore feel out of place not knowing everyone else.

Sorry, analysing too much...

Don't need and A list and B list as we've got quite a big venue with buffet etc. all already booked & paid for.

Just would like to seem friendly rather than desperate, am worried the invitation might seem like we've got no friends whereas in fact we have lots of friends and that's why the venue is big enough to extend invitations to more people.

Ah, if it's a big bash I wouldn't worry so much. I would think with the kind of do you describe it will seem more friendly than desperate. Meant to say, I think it's nice of you to want to invite them too!

OK will go ahead and invite them then, as it seems they won't be crossing the street to avoid us if I do and might actually be pleased about it.

yes, it's a good way of meeting new people.