School party invitations: "I don't want to go" ...protocols?

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Child 4 yrs doesn't want to go to another childs party. First one ever refused. I have given our apologises and left it at that. however another mum has indicated that it's known we'd probably not go due to some ill-feeling between the children.

What to do? I don't want to go with a child who may say something awful like: I don't like him/her ...or not go and feel like I'm contributing to creating a barrier that these two feisty 4 yr olds have developed. They do like each other sometimes - i think!

This is tricky. Could you not "make it known" that you have other plans that day? It doesn't have to be anything special. I can envisage this happening with my 6 year old tbh. I personally think it is better that you try and smooth over any suggestion that there is ill feeling between such young children.

As you say, they do seem to like each other sometimes. Would be a shame if the other mother took offence or things got out of proportion.

If your child doesn't want to go them just respect their wishes and don't take them.

Just say you're busy that day. I don't think you would be helping to create a barrier between these children, Children are fickle.