DD wants sleepover for her birthday BUT

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One friend has just moved away, one friend is ALWAYS ALWAYS at our house and dd never gets invited there and there is also another friend who doesnt get on with either of these girls but will need to be at the party. What can I do to convince dd to NOT have a sleepover???? She will be 9.

maybe invite the two girls who get along to sleepover, and do something separate with the disagreeable one?

She is a lovely little girl but DD has issues between her and her best friend (the one who is Always here). DD doesnt seem to be able to cope with both of them and then they fall out. I really cant leave her out. Also I dont know if the other friend would be able to make it to the sleepover so that would only really leave dd and 1 friend???? Hhhhhmmmm what to do.

It's up to dd though isn't it? Ask her who to invite and just go by that

DD is the same age. I find if i orchestrate planned activities (cooking, crafts, games, movies) then there is less chance of fall out with battles for dominance.

Disagreements tend to happen 'round here when strong-willed girls are left to their own devices.

So, maybe the answer is to plan/plan/plan and then supervise closely to defuse any squabbles?

It's a lot more work for you though.........

Yeah maybe but what happens when they are up in the bedroom getting on with it. Think I will try and talk her out of it. I really feel that her best friends mum takes the piss and I dont want her to stay. It is an issue for me just now.

If the girls can't even be together to chat in the dark prior to going to sleep, then I don't think you can risk it.

I personally think multiple child sleepovers are a pain, killjoy that I am! And if there is friction in the group, it's bound to end in tears. I'd just organise a fab party for her and tell her she can have individual friends sleep over another time. Can you explain the reasons to her?