Is it OK to invite more kids to party at last minute, after lots of RSVP's can't come?

[blithedance]

Cannot work out whether or not this is a terrible faux pas.

DS's birthday party is in a week. Only children from his school year/class were asked, to avoid offense caused by excluding anyone.

Now due to the Easter holidays quite a lot of his friends can't come and numbers are a bit thin. Would it be awful to ring a couple of mums of his friends in the year above and invite them since we have places available. (Party is at a venue not home).

Would you just be mortally offended to find your child was on "reserve" list? Leading to excommunication from school gate society, etc. etc

Not if you were honest and upfront about it, no.

Sorry, that was in answer to your last question not the thread title.

Yes I'd have no choice but to be honest! Any more?

I think that would be fine, i wouldn't be offended if i was a parent of one of the children.

Yes-I would understand-I would do the same myself.

I think it's fine

I'd not be offended and if free would come along.

definately. am holding my first venue party at end of month and have a reserve list already

Ah this is good to hear.

DS1's party is unavoidably in the middle of the May half term. I fear that several of his pals won't be able to come (tho we have checked with the 2 best pals) so I am plannign a reserve list but don't want to make a faux pas.

From previous threads on pary invites, I would have said there will be many parents already heartbroken / pissed off/ wonder what they have doen wrong, that their DC were not asked to the party in the first place.

Confusing as all the relpies here say no problem.

Not sure if the party has gone already but the risk of inviting more is that the original invitees might turn up as well unless they specifically said no. Lots of people don't RSVP definitely.