If you're not RC would you be uncomfortable going to a first communion party?

[marialuisa]

That's it really....DH has made me slightly paranoid that DD's friends' parents will not want their kids to attend a tea-party for her first communion. There would be no religious element to the party itself (that's happening earlier in the day), although DD has spotted some themed plates she likes she could be persuaded towards something secular if that would make it less uncomfortable.

My family is very multi-culti and i grew up going to Bar Mitzvah parties etc. so it hadn't occurred to me that anyone would feel uneasy about going to such a party.

No more uncomfortable than going to a Sikh wedding for example, in other words not in the slightest.

I honestly don't see what the problem is, although I probably would empasise that its a PARTY. Its a celebration - I don't see it as being any different than going to a wedding - even if you are not married etc.

Have fun

Wouldn't bother me - we went to baptisms and baptism parties, etc. Am intrigued by the themed plates, though...

You do not need to be religous yourself to celebrate someone else passing a religious milestone! How many non-religious people have been to a church wedding for example!

Your dh is being silly IMO. I would attend as I would want my children to be part of a big day for her - just like any other big day!

Thanks-the themed plates are hideousquite special and seem to have caused DH's panic. Apparently crosses and food don't mix. See here www.partydelights.co.uk/religious/religious_occasions.asp

Do you mean these ones?

I quite like them actually and I am not religious in any way! In any case, the plates won't put people off (unless you send a sample out with the invites) as they will already be t the party when they see them!

But the invitations...! She likes the "Blessed Day" ones btw.

I'd go! I'm c of E, but we still do HAVE a first communion (later, at 12 I think) so I completely understand the significance and what it is, and I would go to the church too if I were invited to that bit.

No.

I'm not Jewish (DP is) and go to plenty of Bar Mitzvahs. They are fun!

Well, I suppose the invitations are a bit erm.. personal taste

TBH though, it is her day and I would be tempted to let her make it the way she wants it. Could you steer her towards making her own invites on the computer? That way she could make them as she likes but you could have some controlling influence without it being too obvious?

Yes, getting her to design her own is probably the way forward. I am being very good, she has the dress she fell in love with, even though it isn't what I'd choose....She's really doing well with the religious side of things and challenging DH's ignorance as well as asking lots of thoughtful questions.

No! Party on

I'm not particularly actively religious anyway, but different religions are fascinating. I love all the interesting details.