If your child misses a party due to illness do you send a present afterwards?

[Cornflakemum]

Yes or no?

DS missed a party. I phoned early in the morning to say he wouldn't be going. No idea if this meant they would end up paying or not (it was a leisure centre type party).

It was actually a joint party (two kids in his class) - so do I have to send two presents even though he didn't go?

(And if yes, where can I find something that costs 50p, but looks like it cost a tenner )

no, i wouldn't and wouldn't expect a pressie of a non attendee at my dc's party either.

I would (and have)ds was ill on the party date but I'd already got the present. Why didn't your ds attend?

I would, but only because at that notice I'd have had the present bought, wrapped and labelled, so I'd figure I might as well give it to the child.

50p that looks like a tenner - you've missed the boat, stocking up in advance from The Book People is the way to go there.

We had my daughter's 4th at weekend and a non- attendee didn't send a gift. If she had, I would have said "Put it in your present box for another time". She got loads of stuff. I did take the party bag round tho. I personally wouldn't expect it unless it's a close friend.

no

No

I wouldnt unless it was a best friend

I do if I already had the pressie, and only cancelled the day of the party.

if I hadn;t got a pressie, and had cancelled in good time, then no.

yes.

This happened to us recently. I had already got a present and didn't cancel until 2 hours beforehand, so sent the present in with Ds on the Monday.

He was ill overnight the day before the party (so gave about 12 hours notice...)

I hadn't bought the presents (we were going to get them the morning before the party...)

One of the party kids came to DS's party last year and brought a really crap present (it was in a tatty dirty box, and had a £1.99 'SALE' sticker still on the bottom....)

They're classmates - not best friends.

I'm inclined not to bother .

I would, but I wouldn't expect someone to do it for DS IYSWIM.

Yes usually, because if nothing else then we have often bought it.

Also if any of mine are invited to a party then it's because it's a friend (IYSWIM), therefore they want to give a gift.

I guess maybe with a reception "all-class" party (if that's what they do your way) then you might not bother for just a random child.

For a friend, yes, because we would get them a pressie anyway even if they didn't have a party, but for a classmate, no, would just apologise for having to pull out due to illness.

my answer would be yes. It cost me money for dd's party last week and people cancelled at the very last minute due to illness, so I paid for kids who weren't there (but who were able to go to other parties, but that's another story )

I think you should still give a present a, as a sorry b, as a thank you for inviting me c, if they spent money for your dc to have a nice time at their dc's party then you should at least spend money on a nice present

sorry but I'm really p-d off at some people's behaviour at my dd's party. okay the kids were sick, but a present should still have been given.