Anyone who got married after having DC (ie married the DC's other parent)

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Did the DC have specific roles in the wedding?
I am a wedding celebrant and have a booking for a couple who have a DD who I think is quite little. Just wondering about possible ways in which the DD could feature in the wedding (OK if the DD is a baby then it will probably be minimal).

ANd I know this is late for a thread like this so will bump it in the morning

DD was nearly 2yo and was my "flower girl". SHe walked in with me and my Dad then my Dad put her on my Mums lap. The registrar was lovely with her. Whilst they got the register ready for us to sign they asked my Mum to bring her up to sit on my knee, she had her photo taken etc with us at the front.

Any quiet "waiting" moments she talked to DD and said how lovely she looked etc. It all distracted her from the fact she was not the centre of attention!

My sisters DS carried a cushion with rings on it at 2yo as well.

Younger DC I would suggest making time for photos at the front before the signing if you can, I love the pictures of the 3 of us together, it is almost as if she was there between us - part of us - as we said our vows

Hoochiemama_ I don't actually know the age of the DD yet, just want to have some nice suggestions ready when I meet the clients (basically they have a 'wedding website' which mentions that they have a DD but doesn't give her age).

Yes, DS1 was nearly 2 years old.
We had a humanist ceremony in Scotland.
He was too young to have a role I think.
We didn't exchange rings, so he couldn't get involved in that, and he's not the most compliant or reliable child even now, so we didn't give him a role.

congrats on your new celebrant status.

Actually what was important to us was our daughter being there in the special role of.... herself!!!!

She was 2yrs 2months - we invited our witness to bring his two children to keep her company, we put toys down on the floor and as we quietly married with our two friends as witnesses she and her two friends rather noisily played - it was so natural, warm and completely perfect!!!

I suppose it depends on the feel of the whole wedding in terms of what works... but for us that was exactly right!!!!

Thanks to everyone so far: because I don't know the age of the DD yet I just want to have some possibilities in my mind to suggest to them when I meet them.

WIll find out DD age on Saturday. ANyone else got any ideas?

DS1 was only 8mths so no active role, other than looking adorable and stealing all the ladies hearts. I also liked that we took photos of him with us so he became a small part of the events.

Just to add I think it's really nice of you to think about this and look for inspiration solidgold.

DS was 22mths and just marched about in his kilt looking cute, totally unplanned but he marched in front of us and led us out of the church, have a great pic of this.

Really its going to be page boy or flower girl, older girls- bridesmaid, older boys- usher or perhaps even best man.

I would imagine flower girl if she's walking, maybe ring-bearer if she's older. If she's really little ie under 1 or soemthing I will probably suggest that the best man or chief bridesmaid holds her while the couple exchange rings (especially if she's a wriggler) If she's 8 or more she might want to do a reading or something - will check it all out when I meet them.