Whose in the wrong?

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I have had the same close friendship circle for 25yrs. Men & women. 2 of them are my child's god parents. I moved away to a new town about 6mths ago. Its not far from my hometown. About 40min drive. I went back to my hometown recently to have a night out & a catch up (due to different work schedules, kids etc its hard to meet up regularly) the night was great. I enjoyed seeing everyone altogether, having fun, lots of laughter. I dont drive so my daughters god father said he would give me & my daughter a lift home the next day around 6ish but to call him at 2 so he could get himself up & sorted etc. The next day I called him twice & text him no response. I messaged everyone else to see if they had heard from him but everyone was extremely hungover. I text his brother & he said he would call him but he didnt answer. I left it an hour called again & his phone was switched off. I rung round to see if anyone could give me a lift but as I said everyone was too hungover. I checked train times but the next train home wasn't until 8. Then it would take an hour & half to get home plus a 30min walk to my house. My daughters god father knew I needed to get home because of my daughter having school the next day. Anyway eventually had to go home the next day instead. He hasnt apologised for letting me down. He hasnt spoken to me since that night. None of my friends have even though I have messaged all of them, thanking them for a great night.
Now all of sudden all the parties I had been invited too for the rest of the year I have not been invited too. One of my friends mentioned about another friends 30th birthday in July (in the group) & if I had got my invite which i hadnt. She tried to cover up the mistake by saying "its probably in the post etc" but my suspicions are raised. It seems if me & my daughters godfather have an issue like this I suddenly get casted out of things. Its happend a few times over the last 20yrs but never really noticed the pattern until now. It feels like hes controlling the situation by making out im in the wrong (when he let me down) then maybe saying if she goes (to future parties etc) im not going. Am I being paranoid? Am I in the wrong to be annoyed about this situation?

It's a big ask to expect a lift when you're 40 mins out, so basically 1.5 hours travel for them. Yes they let you down if it was all agreed, but I can see why you've been dropped of you expect lifts.

I'm confused.

Why would you expect anyone to take you home, that distance ?
How did you get there?
If you moved away, why would you have any expectation that other people will be your chauffeur ?

But equally, I'm wondering just how heavily the whole group drink that they were all too drunk to drive by later the following afternoon ? Especially if you were there with (presumably quite young, if you are being invited to 30ths) children ?

I have no idea if you are paranoid or not about the invitations, but why would you possibly think it was a reasonable ask for other guests to drive you home ?

I read it that the godfather offered the lift, not that the OP asked for it.

Don't get me wrong, if someone has offered / promised / agreed to do it, then they were wrong to let OP down, I'm not disagreeing with that, but I can't understand the notion of not being able to travel independently as a young adult.

I didnt expect a lift. Her godfather offered to give me a lift home because I dont drive.
We went on a night without any kids present.
My niece gave me lift there because she came over to my house the night before.
I did not expect anyone to take me home. I always travel independently whether that be bus or train but he said instead of rushing around to get home he would take me back the next day.