Birthday - to pay for those who weren’t invited?

[rhrni]

My Daughter’s birthday is coming up soon.
I’ve booked a trampoline bounce party with food.

1 adult can supervise 8 children, so my partner will be going in with 8 of them.
One of the Mums said she would be bringing her other child along but would be happy to pay for her entry. I’m more than happy to pay for this myself, but because there will be 9 kids, there will now need to be another paying adult going in with them.

It would cost me another £26 to pay for her and another adult to go in.

I’m torn about what to do. Do I just suck it up and pay the extra £26 and go in with them all? I’m pregnant and really didn’t want to which is why we only invited 8.

Would you just let the Mum know the situation and leave it for her to sort out?

I’m also worried if they pay for her and they only pay the normal entry fee (and not the party fee, which is more expensive), then she’ll be sat there without any food (food is served on individual plates).

Thoughts please!

I'd let her know it would mean an extra supervision which increases the cost greatly. But if a child drops out you'll let her know.

Yes, i think its fine to say your DP can only supervise 8 therefore the mum will have to pay entry if extra child is also going in. Definitely dont go trampolining while pregnant!

I would say ‘oh, really sorry but it is one adult per 8 kids, meaning just DH and the 8 invited kids. The trampoline will only provide food for those 8 too, so it won’t work with those conditions I’m afraid. Obviously totally fine for you and DC to book separately and be there to join in the fun’

This is what I'd say too

Thankfully everyone is thinking the same as me.

I’m just such a people pleaser that my instincts are to say ‘don’t worry, I’ll pay for everyone and go in myself’, but I know that I shouldn’t be doing that!

Just say the party is capped at 8 due to supervision number requirements, if her other child is just joining the public session no problem but no food or party bag would be provided. I assume she means option 2 but I seen it all on MN.

Can you imagine if you fell over and something terrible happened . I think your babies best interest has to come before you pleasing a school mum on this 🥰

I am saying this to you nicely for you to think about when you are struggling to explain the situation to this Mum . Please don’t put this child before your own .

This. She can of course take her extra child to a public session, she doesn't get to decide this child joins your dc's party!

There's a great thread currently on whether you are a CF to bring a sibling to a birthday party. Mumsnet consensus was yes unless you have a good reason (husband in the forces, single parent). It's not up to you to accommodate her other child.

One of the mums said she will be bringing her child along

erm no she won’t. That child isn’t invited

let alone she would be happy to pay for her entry

wtf. Why would you be happy to pay for her Non invited child entry ?