I'm new to school party etiquette and looking for some advice please.
DD's party is next Saturday and luckily being later on in the year I've been able to watch how other parents go out invites and chasing RSVPs.
In our school/nursery, people typically send invites around 7/8 weeks prior to the event which is what I did for my daughter. People who could join all replied at the time.
Now were less than 10 days out, I sent a reminder on the group chat (like the other parents do), given 7 weeks have passed, and wrote in my message no need to reply again if you already have, just a thumbs up if you're still joining. The majority have but I still have 8 children on my original "yes" list whose parents haven't responded to my chaser. I'm going to give it until next week but if they don't reply would you take that to mean they aren't coming eve n though they originally said they were? I know people can miss messages or read & forget to reply so I'm hoping as we get closer to the date they remember to come back to me or should I send them a private message saying something along the lines of hi, you originally said you were coming but haven't heard from you since my chaser, are you still joining? Or is that OTT?
I would be happy to just wait until the day and see if they turn up but it's more for things like how many goody bags to organise and buy for and food quantities.
TIA!