50th letdown

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I have planned a party for myself - sent out a save the date at the end of January - booked sole use of a venue with food, music and put down a deposit. Invited approx 75 friends and family but only 32 are definite yes’s. Most of my closest friends can’t come and the 32 includes some family who will mostly likely only come for the start. I’m feeling rubbish about the whole thing - don’t really feel like celebrating anymore - what should I do? 🤷🏼‍♀️ worried the venue will look empty and that there won’t be any atmosphere. How can I rescue this? Just feel like it’s the biggest most expensive mistake 😭

Could you keep the same date but change the venue? 32 is still a decent number of people, you could have a nice meal in a room of a pub for example? You might lose your deposit on the original booking but at least you might enjoy it more.

Give your head a wobble. Loads of people book parties for themselves. One of my firnds has booked a milestone birthday party for herself in the summer.

Cancel and spend the money on yourself. Buy yourself something nice. I bought myself a ring for my 50th. After cancer treatment I'm looking at buying a painting.

Poor you. People are rubbish. I doubt I would even get 10 people to come to my 50th next year. I used to have lots of friends but many have moved away, some have died and others come from such different walks of life (work, mum friends, football friends) I can't imagine having them all in the same room together. I would either spend the money on a holiday or have a party with close friends. More fun anyway.

Huh? Most people host their own parties past childhood, surely?

my DH and I host all our own gatherings. Mostly in our home as it’s large but not always.