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wedding woes

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mummyincharge · 11/05/2008 22:12

Do you ever feel like cancelling your wedding? I'm getting married in 6 weeks time , it's very low key only immediate family, but htb is getting arsy at any mention of day, i think were nearly there only have to book favours and petals for table, and discuss vows and invite a few extra people to evening do. flowers are ordered although he's just told me he doesn't like roses, and thinks i should have carnations in my bouquet, sorry but i've said roses all along. all I get is negative vibes, were just throwing money away, why am i doing this etc, feeling pretty deflated, we have been togeher 15 years and have 3 kids, i'm supposed to be going to my fist dress fitting tomorrow with three kids in tow, but now he has a problem with some clothes he bought today from a town 20 miles away and wants me to sort that out, im not a miracle worker and cant be in two places at once and take the kids to and from school.

Am very tempted to day stuff it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Tortington · 11/05/2008 22:19

tell him its your fucking day and you want it =- to shut his moaning hole and give you THIS ONE FUCKING THING

the bouquet is yours

carnations are pants

seriously do men only know carnations and roses.

carnations are the tackiest tack fest ever

i only display them becuase of the thought - they look hideous.

seriously tell him to shut the fuck up

bluejelly · 11/05/2008 22:21

Loving your touchy-feely approach custardo

But I totally agree. Who the hell would choose carnations on their wedding day?

Hassled · 11/05/2008 22:23

I think maybe you need to sit him down and ask whether he actually wants to get married. If he does, then I'm with Custardo all the way.
Or maybe you need to sit down and ask yourself whether you want to marry this man?

Tortington · 11/05/2008 22:29

thanks i am well known for my soft edged approach

pinkspottywellies · 11/05/2008 22:29

I think maybe (some) men don't understand why things like flowers and favours are important. Is he outgoing or more shy? Maybe he's really nervous about how things are going to go on the big day, or how being married might change things as you've been together for such a long time.

Have you talked about the marriage and not just the wedding together recently?

And if none of that makes a difference then I'm with Custy too!

nametaken · 12/05/2008 22:12

It's not the brides day - it's the bride and grooms day.

However, I am not convinced the groom really does want carnations instead of roses in the bouquet because a) it's not his bouquet and b) sounds like he's just being arsey for the sake of it.

Just agree with everything he says about the flowers and then go ahead and order what you want - I doubt if he'll even notice.

and if he's got a problem with some clothes he brought he can deal with it. Not tell you to deal with it on the day when your wedding dress fitting is booked.

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mummyincharge · 25/05/2008 20:04

Hi sorry been away for a week in France, he definately wants a carnation, so he can have one, but I am having roses. He's now decided he doesn't like the jazz band we have booked for the evening do. He s a very quiet chap and doesn;t want to be the centre of attention, we have already told the band we are not doing a first dance, but he thinks our guests will pressure him into it. I've told him he doesn;t have to do anything he doesn't want, as I have two left feet, but he's not happy. can't cancel now as we will still have to pay them. Also I think favours are a waste of money, we were thinking of chocolate hearts, but i always think favours get left on the table, what do you think?

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S1ur · 26/05/2008 02:43

oragnising weddings can be very tense. Everyone is in danger of feeling like it MUST be this ideal unattainable day.

It is of course much more important to arrange things so on the day you are all (you/dp and dcs) able to relax and enjoy yourselves. SO obviously having everything sorted miitery style beforehand helps!

SPecific problems then.

Good I'm glad he is to have carnations and you roses.

As for the band/first dance. Band - could a compromise be reached? Is there stuff he wants to hear that they could turn their hand to? Or reduce booking for first hour or two then play music through mps player or some such of your favourite songs?

First dance. He will end up feeling pressured. Which would be crap on day. So, you should address that. How about arrange a group dance of some kind to kick things off?

Forget favors and leave chocs about the place

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