Sleepover and friends

[Redjo123]

Hi, my daughter wants a sleepover for her 11th birthday. Until around 3 months ago my daughter and her friendship group were part of a larger group of 9 girls and 1 boy. They have recently (3/4 months ago) branched off into smaller groups and although they seem to talk to each other still things sound a little strained.
My daughter only wants to invite her smaller group of 4 and not the others which I am battling with as I feel bad for them not being invited ( I have known these girls for 4 years)
I have tried talking to my daughter about why she doesn’t want them there and it may bring them back together etc but she’s adamant that she only wants her small group of friends which is making me wonder if more has gone on in the group than she says and she isn’t telling me. I feel like it’s her birthday and she should have who she wants there.
Also not sure how I feel about her bestie staying over who is a boy ? What would you do ?

Let her have who she wants, friendships do change at that age. I wouldn’t read too much into it or try and force it. I think a group of 10 would naturally split off.

If they’ve been friends for years and he’s definitely not bf/gf with dd or her friends then probably ok still. Age is a bit on the border. Could you chat to other mums and see what they all think? I wonder if he could sleep in another room but be there the whole time otherwise?

Let her have who she wants, friendships change a lot at that age. Maybe she just doesn't have much in common with the others anymore.
Also selfishly I'd much rather do a sleepover for 4 than 9!