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would a wedding reception be wierd.......

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myermay · 28/04/2008 13:48

if there were no band/disco??

Not sure i want the usual type of wedding, ie, church, reception then disco. We want something really fun, that gets people mingling and is very social.

We are hiring a bar area of a hotel which is really relaxed an informal. So after the buffet, how about having somethings like a casino that comes along and you use fake money.

Really want to get married, but the whole reception thing is making me nervous - what if no one dances at the disco?? Would love to do a get together in our back garden but the weather is not guarenteed.

Have you ever been to a wedding with no disco, and is it a bit flat?

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jojosmaman · 28/04/2008 13:57

I have never been to a wedding without a disco but the casino thing sounds like a great idea. I went to Paris one New Years Eve and they had a "Vin Casino" in the hotel bar after the meal which basically was a casino but involved wine tasting, smelling of flavours, even placing chips on which region a wine was from (sounds v poncey but really, it wasn't, it basically meant everyone got a bit tipsy and broke the ice with other guests).

Maybe you could just set up an ipod to speakers to make it less formal and then you get to pick the music too? A wedding I went to a couple of years ago did this and it was fine (and it meant no cheesy wedding anthems!)

edam · 28/04/2008 13:58

Sounds v nice but I would have some music playing just to give a bit of atmosphere...

Hope you have a lovely day!

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myermay · 28/04/2008 14:01

thank you. Yes we'd do some cd's of all our favourite tunes and do the ipod thing - the casino was great we went to last month. Just worried as when i've had a few i do usually fancy a boogie

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DrNortherner · 28/04/2008 14:02

Organised a wedding with no disco once. They had a piano and a sing song.

They had no wine eiether - only schleur.

littlelapin · 28/04/2008 14:03

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myermay · 28/04/2008 14:03

there will be plenty of wine at our do!

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Gobbledigook · 28/04/2008 14:04

Eek - the best bit of weddings in teh disco imo!

Up to you of course!

Hassled · 28/04/2008 14:04

We had a meal in a Tapas Bar for the people who had been to the ceremony, and then had a disco-less reception for everyone else in the evening - just hired a room in a restaurant/bar place, they did a quite substantial finger buffet thing, we had a playlist of our choosing and people drank and chatted away. Worked well.

Basically I was trying to avoid the excrutiating "first dance" bit - didn't seem appropriate as second marriage, we already had 2 kids and had been together for years.

Twinkie1 · 28/04/2008 14:04

We went to a great wedding without a disco - everyone chatted and drank - mind you we had 3 hours of champagne before dinner so were all pretty pissed - at around 10pm though someone drove their car right up to the extrernal wall and opened the windows and stuck the radio on - we needed music and a boogie by then!

SniffyHock · 28/04/2008 14:06

We went to a really cool wedding in London with no disco. They hired a bar and just has music playing - it was fab. Another London wedding was the same. The music did get louder and some drunken types (moi??) danced any way.

Think of all the brilliant nights out you've had with friends that didn't involve a disco. Casino sounds fab too!

Have a fab time!

DrNortherner - piano and singsong; great. Scleur;

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myermay · 28/04/2008 14:09

We've also been together for ages - just find disco's a bit cringeable when you have a mix of people who don't know each other. Been to ones where lots of people don't dance. Would def had some music. Just worried as it's a relatively small bar that it might be a bit cramped and load!

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SniffyHock · 28/04/2008 14:11

Cramped and loud will be great fun! Pretend you're 18 again and this is what you do 4 nights of the week

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myermay · 28/04/2008 14:14

do you know i'm worrying about everything! we've booked the reg office and this lovely bar area. But thinking of cancelling it all and buggering off abroad to do it with teh kids, don't know if i can bear to be centre of attention and all this worry: what if no one dances, what if dp's family are anti social (not uncommon), arghhh, just a worrier really!

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SniffyHock · 28/04/2008 14:23

How soon is the wedding? I'm sure you'll have a brilliant day but hopefully it's soon so you don't get yourself in a tizz!

I always worry about parties and they're always great. Have you invited a few friends that you know will be lively and fun? It really doesn't matter if no-one dances and if family are unsociable, no-one will blame you.

Try to relax and just have a brilliant day.

Scramble · 28/04/2008 14:28

Being scottish a weddings here nearly always have a band for some good old scottish dancing then followed by some more contempory stuff. But I am a great fan of people doing their own thing and doing it a bit differently. I am going to a wedding soon that will have a kareoke so the bride and groom will be sing the first song, more excruitating than dancing I think but they love it and I am sure we will all have a great time.

Casino thing sounds greatand I am sure there will be some kind of background music....Enjoy it whatever you do, everyone else will .

Scramble · 28/04/2008 14:29

PS I really wouldn't worry about people not dancing, there are always a hardcore of middle age woman who are happy to fill the floor and drag everyone else up and a good DJ should be able to match the mood and the tastes of the guests.

EffiePerine · 28/04/2008 14:31

We didn't have one - just moved into the pub for the evening. Hate hate hate wedding discos and have seen enbough Cheesy Dad Dancing to last me

pagwatch · 28/04/2008 14:35

I had a disco-less wedding !
It was lovely.
I know it is not what others choose but I wanted a really old fashioned wedding so we had church service followed by a huge reception at a lovely hotel on the river. At about 6 o'clock DH and i left and went on our honeymoon.

I know it will sound odd to many but for me a wedding that ends in a disco is just like any other Saturday night and I thats not what I wanted. I have also been to a couple where the bride and groom have got drunk and ....

We knew that lots of our guests were going to a local hotel that had a DJ and bar so we put some money behind the bar for them.
It worked well for us. Although I should add that I am probably very very old.

mummyincharge · 29/04/2008 14:16

I'm getting married in June and have booked a 3 piece jazz band instead, so then people have the choice to dance, talk or just listen. We didn't want a disco as we are only a small group of 40 people and HTB hates dancing.

CaptainKarvol · 29/04/2008 14:23

I had a disco free wedding (had a celidah instead, was a barn dance in a barn, most appropriate). Also attended one with no disco but a 'casino', which personally I didn't enjoy but hey, that's just me, I don't really enjoy gambling games! They had some background music as well from a string quartet early on, then something a bit louder. And one recently on a boat, again no disco, but a small 4-piece band playing while everyone drank and mingled. Lots of options. All had music, but noone had a 'disco'.

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