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What would you do, ignore it or say something?

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RachaelT · 22/06/2024 17:00

Due to work commitments Saturdays are usually our only family day, so if we don’t have any invites to do things we make the most of it with day trips and activities.

Today was one such day, no parties or major things that needed doing, and there was money in the pot for a treat, so we went to the cinema, had lunch at Greggs (a favourite of DD) and then went bowling.

I’d heard that it was a boy in DD’s class’s birthday party but she’d not been invited (and I’m cool with that, she hardly mentions the child in question so they obviously don’t play together much). I had not heard where or what time it was, so was surprised when we pulled up at the bowling alley & noticed a familiar face in the nearest car - one of daughter’s friends. I realised we were at the party venue, right on time for it starting… I mentioned this to DH hoping that he’d help me persuade DD that we’d go bowling another time but he didn’t get the hint.

We stuck to our lane and they were at the other end of the lanes, only about half of the class were there, but we were definitely spotted by birthday boy’s mum and other parents as they had to walk past us to their lanes. DD watched them walk past and was a little confused, but was very good about the situation once I explained and carried on playing with us just fine.

Tomorrow DH is taking DD to a whole of class party, should I ask him to mention it or just pretend it didn’t happen? Or should I try to contact the mum today?

What would you do? Anything, or am I totally overthinking it?

OP posts:
Sunshineclouds11 · 22/06/2024 17:02

Nothing, Why do you need to do anything or say anything

Kangarude · 22/06/2024 17:05

I don’t understand. What would you do/say about what?
You went bowling and some kids were having a party with someone your DC is not close to?

RachaelT · 22/06/2024 17:08

Sunshineclouds11 · 22/06/2024 17:02

Nothing, Why do you need to do anything or say anything

Because I’m worried that would be viewed as rude, but if not its all good 👍🏻

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RachaelT · 22/06/2024 17:12

Kangarude · 22/06/2024 17:05

I don’t understand. What would you do/say about what?
You went bowling and some kids were having a party with someone your DC is not close to?

I don’t know, I guess if we’d been mid-game or they had when we showed up it would have been different, but showing up at the exact time was so unfortunate I don’t want the mum to think we went hoping to tag along to the party.

I don’t want to seem extra rude by not acknowledging/explaining if I should. This whole party/school politics thing is new to us as DD is just about to finish reception. 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Preparetoturnright · 22/06/2024 17:15

RachaelT · 22/06/2024 17:08

Because I’m worried that would be viewed as rude, but if not its all good 👍🏻

Worried what would be viewed as rude?

They had a party, you happened to be at the same place with your DD.

Nothing has happened.

RachaelT · 22/06/2024 17:31

Preparetoturnright · 22/06/2024 17:15

Worried what would be viewed as rude?

They had a party, you happened to be at the same place with your DD.

Nothing has happened.

To not acknowledge the situation.

I’m obviously overthinking it 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

OP posts:
Preparetoturnright · 22/06/2024 17:38

To not acknowledge the situation

But there is no "situation" to be acknowledged?

What "situation" do you think there is?

Yes (kindly) you are overthinking this.

Nobody else is giving it a second thought.

SparkyBlue · 22/06/2024 17:40

Honestly OP you are overthinking it (I'm guilty of this as well). Don't mention anything and i hope your DD enjoys the party tomorrow

Kangarude · 22/06/2024 17:59

RachaelT · 22/06/2024 17:12

I don’t know, I guess if we’d been mid-game or they had when we showed up it would have been different, but showing up at the exact time was so unfortunate I don’t want the mum to think we went hoping to tag along to the party.

I don’t want to seem extra rude by not acknowledging/explaining if I should. This whole party/school politics thing is new to us as DD is just about to finish reception. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Oh, I see. No, I don’t think you need to say anything. No explanation required

FinallyFinalGirl · 22/06/2024 18:26

OP don't worry. It was just a coincidence. They'll know it too as alleys are booked in advance. If you say anything, they'll probably think it WAS on purpose, so definitely park it

I hope your daughter had a lovely time!

BuggeryBumFlaps · 22/06/2024 18:37

There isn't really a situation to acknowledge. You went bowling, so did they. End of!

I guess if you're making conversation with someone you saw you could ask if x had a good birthday party but I don't think you 'need' to do anything

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