4th birthday party, new area

[Bubblesandwine]

I’m trying to figure out what to do for my son’s birthday.

We’ve recently moved to the area, so my son who will be 4 at the start of September only did a few weeks at preschool before the summer break. He wants a party and has explicitly asked but ive held off booking until we moved.

The problem is we dont know anyone and dont have any close friends or family nearby.

He’s been going to holiday club so has met a few people, but says he doesnt play with anyone (not true as i’ve asked the staff). I dont know any parents so would be relying on nursery staff to hand out to children they think he’s friends with but ultimately the invites will be blank and generic with just the party details on.

I have no idea how many to book for, and if any children will turn up as ive never met any of the parents. Most kids seem to have sibling sets also. He’s already been invited to one at the same venue i was planning to book the week of his actual birthday so it’s clearly the done thing around here.

Should i just hold off for this year and wait until next year or just risk no one turning up? Perhaps no one turning up is an anxiety of mine as i didnt have a large group of friends growing up and was always a bit on the outside of friendship groups.

Do i invite siblings just to boost the numbers in which case do i need to buy food for them too?

Is a Saturday or a sunday better to book?

Thanks!

If I'm honest I wouldn't bother this year and save it for next year. I did something similar for my DD when we moved to a new area- I basically invited everyone from her nursery class and every friend I could think of (wherever they lived) in the hope they would come and spent the weeks leading up to it in a state of panic and anxiety. I was actually right to be worried because it turned out that one 3 of her nursery friends said they could come and so I put so much pressure on my family and friends to be there. Fast forward a year and she was in a different nursery and I did the same thing- invited all 30 of her class mates and nearly all of the buggers ended up saying yes!! I spent a small fortune on the party and although it was great I've since realised most people do smaller things and I maybe went OTT. I would suggest organising a small family day out to a local farm or something. Invite your parents and do cake and presents etc and call it a party. Then send in a cake to pre- school and get them to sing to them and make a fuss there too. I'm sure they will love it.