Should we invite kids who didn't invite us?

[JimmyJam2019]

My DD has not been invited to any class birthday parties this year. Its our first year (school Y2) of smaller activity parties (bowling etc) than big class parties last year.
DD has started talking about her birthday and I know she will want to invite some of these (mainly) girls that have left her out.
Do I ignore it all and just invite them?
For context my DD is socially immature and has some sensory issues around balloons and noises, which meant she went home early after some parties last year. She floats around different groups at school socially and hasn't developed solid friendships, although this doesn't appear to bother her. The girls in her class are already quite cliquey (somewhat engineered by the parents).
Am I over thinking this and just let my daughter invite who she wants? She does have Rainbows friends she will likely invite too.

Yes! It’s her party, let her invite who she wants.

Yes, let her invite who she wants.

Please let your daughter invite whomever she wants. If she's not keeping score, then don't do it on her behalf.
Party invitations can be allocated in different ways, and kids can be left out without it being an intentional snub; I always threw birthday parties at our house for my DC (as unable to afford AirHop-type parties), so had to limit numbers. DC pretty much always had a bigger list than I felt able to accommodate, and I'm sure over the years we left some of their friends out. I'd really hope nobody made a mental note not to invite them to their parties as a result.
But I hear you re your worries about your DD finding lasting friendships.

I would as there could be lots of reasons she wasn't invited. Cost is the obvious one, also some parents might only feel comfortable taking out children they already know outside school (eg friends with their parents). Also friendships change so a party in September might not reflect friendships now. And at this age it's really the parents who decide who's invited not the kids - some party invitations might reflect who the parents think their child is friends with rather than actual friendships. Hope she has a great party :)

Let her invite who she wants x

If my DD (also with some SEN) had only invited those who invited her, she'd have had a couple who had whole class parties and no one else.

Invite who she wants.

Its her party, let her choose

I would because it is not my party! (As in it is her party not yours)

Let her invite who she wants.

it is painful to not get those reciprocal invitations but you yourself recognise that there are reasons why your DD is not in the social mainstream so I think you need to rise above it and keep an open door and a welcoming attitude to classmates and actual or potential friends. Especially since she herself is not bothered by it.

If everyone thought as you do party invites would be decided age 6 and never change which is obviously not what happens as friendships develop and change. If you never invite other children first then your child is probably even less likely to get future invites. Just let her invite who she wants. You don't invite people to make it reciprocal -you invite people your daughter wants to celebrate with.

Children are not stupid. They learn quickly about friendships in school, Unless there is outright bullying or cruelty involved then let her work it out for herself an invite who she likes.
Some of the cliquey friendships at school are engineered by parents. Inviting a child to a party may take them out of that 'clique' for an afternoon and enable them to be themself for a while.
It is hard to watch this nonsense when you feel your child is being left out, but seriously they already know what is what OP !