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Tit for Tat?

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selby · 10/02/2008 17:37

Well, the scenario is this. DD turned one recently and only received a birthday card from her only uncle. Now do we do the same for her cousin (his son) who turns one in the summer? Yes, I'll admit that it's petty to think this way but for a fairly close but small family who is not at all poverty stricken, I'm a little peeved that she didn't even merit a token £5 present especially when said uncle is whingeing about having to pay half a million for a house. Suffice to say, I don't sympathise. He's a bit tight although he has no problem requesting pricey presents from others. Opinions please. BTW, I've been taking the moral high ground up to now but being a bloke, he's too thick headed to notice!

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hunkermunker · 10/02/2008 17:40

Present is for the child, not the uncle, so it would be unfair on your nephew, if you had been planning to buy him a present anyway.

MaureenMLove · 10/02/2008 17:44

Grit your teeth and rise above it. Send a present.

I have been doing a similar thing for my dh's brothers kid for 6 years. My dd doesn't even get a card from him, let alone a present. I will always buy a pressie for this child though. One day, the sh*t will well and truely hit the fan and I will be able to hold my head high, in the knowledge that I always remembered to send a gift.

pukkapatch · 10/02/2008 18:18

i'm going against the consensus here, and saying, dont. because you will resent it later in life.
i always write down who gave what, so i give of a similar value in return. so no one ends up spending excessively. particularly with in laws

selby · 10/02/2008 20:09

Well, I guess that I should leave it to DH - it's his brother after all. (Feel a tad guilty about this solution cos I know very well that DH won't remember)

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