Would you attend this party?

[Delphinna]

An acquaintance has invited us to their DC’s 4th birthday party. It’s an afternoon event with music and entertainers. I’m unsure how to respond.

1. We haven’t seen them for five years other than the rare occasion we bumped into them at Tesco. We tried to contact them and be friends but they always had an excuse. So it feels like a bit of a present grab to invite us to a party now.

1. They’ve invited loads of adults who don’t have DC or whose DC are grown up. Which seems a bit weird? Not just a few childless relatives - I mean loads of adult friends of the couple. Again possibly a present grab. Just think it might make a weird atmosphere for kids, not really a kids party.

1. The main one - a couple who have been invited and confirmed were incredibly nasty and bullying to me and DH several years ago and we haven’t seen them since. So nasty that I cried about it for years afterwards.

DH reckons we should go because why should one nasty couple prevent our DC enjoying a party. But I’m more like I can’t be arsed with these twats (who will inevitably approach us and speak) and it doesn’t sound like an appropriate kids party anyway.

Don't go.

Don't go. Fine to invite adults. Weird to invite someone you haven't seen in 5 years. Sounds like they need to make up numbers of kids. Possibly without the bullying couple it would be OK. With them, it just sounds stressful. Or send DH and DC and have an afternoon to yourself!

I think they’ve just invited everyone they know who has kids. In fact I think they’ve just invited everyone they know, kids or not. I was tempted to take my DC because they never get the chance to go to a party nowadays and would enjoy it. But I probably wouldn’t enjoy it myself.

I wouldnt go

No , not worth the hassle.

Let your DH take your DS ... they get to enjoy the party and you get some time to yourself - win win.

Don’t go. You don’t want to go.

@sleepyduvetcat

Don’t go. You don’t want to go.

This

Fuck that. I wouldn't go to a party for someone I haven't seen in 5 years (let's face it the party is for the adults). Also wouldn't be going to spend time in the company of people who had made me so upset I cried for years.

No way.

No, I wouldn't.
Just say thanks, but we can't come. Hope you have a nice time.