Eloping - what is the done thing with wedding presents?

[paddyclamp]

We are getting married overseas, just us and our kids. I hadn't really given wedding presents a thought but a couple of friends and family members have asked are we having a gift list or what do we want as a wedding present. Should we make a list or is that a bit cheeky given that we are not having a wedding in this country?

I don't know many people that have got married overseas. Any that I do have had some sort of party/celebration on their return. (sort of like an evening reception). If invited to one of these I would expect to take a wedding present. Even if you don't have some sort of party or family gathering afterwards I am certain most people would like to give you a present to wish you well.

Most people do make a list. You could make a list and have it very handy to give out on request - it's not cheeky to do a list as long as you don't go round forcing copies on people!

Hope you have an absolutely fantastic time and a lovely wedding.

We married overseas without telling anyone except the DC. We were given a few bottles of champagne on our return, and DH's Mum bought us a present.

If anyone asked what we wanted I said nothing. Part of our reason for doing it that way was to avoid fuss and expense to anyone.