What is it with parties & children & manners & stuff

[Katymac]

DD's party on Saturday

Some children have refused (well quite a few actually - but then I told her not to have a dinner party as it was boring - but what do I know)

So she is going round saying "you can come as so&so has said no"

She does not understand how rude that is

If she had talked to me I could have given these children invites with a reasonable reason as to why they were late (silly daddy didn't give out all the invites/slipped down the back of the XXX ect)

Now it just looks rude & she can't really invite them

Crap crap crap

Her BF won't be coming

I feel sorry for DD

I feel angry about the children not coming (stupid tho' I know it is)

I hate children's parties

How old will she be, katymac?

10

Katy, I am not a purist about these things, but at least she is telling the truth! Doing it your way you would have been encoureging her to lie to her friends, which would get her in much more trouble with them in the end!

Children are well aware that sometimes there is a limit to the number of people who can be invited and therefore, if someone can't make it, gaps open up. It is not rude it is just the way these things are!

I would just sit her down and work out who can be invited now, write out invitations, have a conversation about putting things tactfully and let her do the explaining, tbh it sounds like she has got it pretty sorted to me!

It's just so rude - I would be so offended if she were invited 4 days before the party

it's easy to get sensitive about parties. I've felt that way myself about having enough people coming. Thing is, most of the girls won't really mind being invited late. They'll just like having the chance to go to a party. I'd leave her to it.

Why?

If the party was for a limited number and a space opened up then why should you be offended? It just means that they are in the "second tier" of friends, not everyone can be a best friend. IT just shows that she has a large group of friends which is a good and healthy thing IMO.

I understand you being upset about the drop-outs but your dd is just trying to fill up her party with friends which is no bad thing - and any of them would do the same thing I ahould think!

I guess I'm feeling grumpy as I'm poorly atm & I don't even want the party - goodness knows how I will cope

So I need to sort out who is coming - who can be invited late & what's going on

Sorry to have been so wet

They say moving house adn childbirth are the most stressful things in life, but I am not so sure .....

My approach to late invites has always been, you know how many you are allowed, get me the phone numbers of any late takers you want and then we can ring them and get a definate answer from parents/discuss details etc. Also give a cut off day, ie all numbers to be in by Thursday evening or they are not invited or whatever works for you!

I really hope it goes well - and you feel better soon

OK talked to the other child's dad & explained the situation

He understands and will let me know if she can come without letting her know she has been invited - so she won't be upset if they already have something arranged (as it's such short notice)

That is excellent KM!