How do I choose who to invite to DDs party in a few weeks time when she is new to Reception and hasn't got any definite friends yet?

[ekra]

(Thought I'd try this topic as well as Other subjects)

No-one from DDs pre-school started at the same school as her. She has settled happily into school and she mentions plenty of people that she plays with. But their friendships are so fluid at this stage, and with no pre-established friends, it makes it a bit difficult to know who to invite to her party. I am planning a party at home with about 8 children. We don?t continue to see the friends that she made at Pre-school.

Whenever I talk to DD about it she mentions different names or else far exceeds the amount of people I have in mind.

What should I do? The teacher is not going to be impressed if I ask her to help me form a guest list is she. hmm

DDs birthday is in about 3 weeks time.

Actually the teacher will probably not mind - I asked the nursery staff when doing dd's 4th birthday if she had any special friends and they gave me a few names.

Maybe try asking dd a few times and seeing if any names keep coming up?

You could try just asking whichever 8 children your dd first names. It isn't really that important, is it? if they do not turn out to be the children she ends up best friends with. What I used to do is keep asking my child and writing down whoever they said. That way, over the period of a week or two, I could see which names came up regularly and invite them.

Alternatively, increase the number you are willing to invite and ask all the girls (if your dd is very much into the girls - harder if she is equally friendly with both sexes).

Finally, I think the teacher might well help you with a few names, but she might not be any more right about who your dd will end up friend with than your dd is.

I'm not worried about choosing the people she is destined to be long-term friends with. I just don't want to leave someone out.

Teachers don't mind helping with that sort of thing. When they were little I got the teacher to write down the names of the children sitting at the same table.