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Please help, moral dilemma!

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Scaredymummy · 15/10/2007 21:54

My dd is at nursery and has the most wonderful kiddies in her class. It is our first xmas away from our family, and so I've decided to do an xmas party for all the kiddies so that their parents can get the pressies wrapped unnoticed, and to make Christmas super special for my dd.
However, there is one mum at the nursery who has an adorable little girl, but she is a nightmare. She enrolled her child in the nursery after I had mentioned it (we are at the same university), ensured that her dd was placed in my dd's group, and then kept asking if "You could perhaps pick dd up when you get yours, as I am SO snowed under", "do you mind having her overnight" etc-we are both single parents doing the same subject so are both as snowed as the other. I refused each time and she now blanks me unless she needs a favour and I am now worried that she will not pick dd up after the party has finished, as it has been known to happen before. Do I not invite the child, or run the risk of having two for the whole of xmas? I don't want her to be the only one that isn't invited, because it's not the kiddie's fault, argh!

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fingerwoman · 15/10/2007 21:56

hmm I think I would invite the child- but make sure she knows that she has to pick her up afterwards, in no uncertain terms. Make it clear that pick-up time is pick up time and if she doesn't turn up then keep ringing her until she does.

swedishmum · 15/10/2007 21:59

I really don't think you should not invite her but understand your dilemma. There's always one parent who pushes it - with me it was a sahm who asked me to take a morning off work to babysit so she could have her hair highlighted!! Er, of course...

I'd just say please be sure to come on time because we're off to visit poor old Uncle Bla and visiting time finishes at x o'clock.

gigglewitch · 15/10/2007 22:03

good one swedish. We have an Uncle Bla too. he's a popular chap. With very fixed visiting times.

Scaredymummy · 15/10/2007 22:04

She's a phone turner-offer. I.e. you get stuck with the child until 10pm, worried sick that she will never pick her up and you will have to adopt said child when you can only just stay financially buoyant with one!
Maybe I could ask for her address beforehand and take the child home if she doesn't come for her? I don't know how they do it with a clear conscience-I'm bereft if I'm five minutes late for pick up!

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fingerwoman · 15/10/2007 22:05

then I would ask her to stay with the child at the party.
or else, in the event that she did turn the phone off I would ring her and leave a message saying you're worried that she hasn't turned up so you've called the police.

Scaredymummy · 15/10/2007 22:08

He he that's really funny! I didn't think about asking her to stay-you clever lady! I know I'm making a mountain out of a molehill, but my mum's staying with us that weekend too so we're a bit full as it is, so the last thing I want to be doing is chasing up an awol parent the day before Xmas!

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