canvassing opinions about dd's Halloween party - playground politics question

[dinny]

dd has been banging on about having a Halloween party for the last 2 years, so have said she can have a SMALL one (was thinking 5-ish friends)

anyhow, has proved really hard to keep it to 5, currently at 8 girls and there are only 15 girls in her class in total. ds is having 3 friends (he's easy) - so, the question is, am I being mean not just inviting all the girls? is it too many for the ones not invited NOt to feel left out?

I am planning a v simple do - sandwiches/crips/fruit and lots of games like apple bobbing etc. no ex prizes/presents so suppose cost isn't an issue....

anyway - should I just invite all 15? sort of want it small - argh! help!

I wouldn't.
I'm having a party for DS1s 10th birthday on 30th October and have had to change plans as his very religious friend is coming and they as so anti-halloween. He just wouldn't come otherwise. DS1 doesn't mind though as he wants him there.

hmmmmm, three of the girls are coming because they really have to as mums are friends....why didn't I keep it really small? gah, could kick self.

yes stop at 8. That's about half coming, half not. Fair enough.

Have you already invited them? I have friends who's kids don't come just because they're my friends iykwim?
People tend to understand especially if it's in your home.

kind of have, yes, mentioned it...

right, think will stop and 8 and not be guilt-ridden.... thanks!

I will almost bet you don't stick at 8 though

I bet you open your big fat mouth and insist that everybody else simply must come, commenting on what a pleasure it will be and the more the merrier

or is that just me?

I know - what is wrong with me??

have felt I should invite someone who dd is not fond of at all because she lives in v close proximity - argh! want to cancel it all (btw, I haven't actually sent out any invites yet - only mentioned it PLUS it is an INSET day - any cunning plans to lower the numbers subtley?)

I'd ask your dd who she wants to come? Give her a limit.

Exdh has decided to take DS1 and his friends out now so I'm doing a low key halloween party, family and friends

You MAY be lucky and find some have plans already? Good luck!