How long do you normally wait for RSVP's to come back?

[TartWithAHeart]

It's been a week. I am waiting for two RSVP's from two mums's of children at DS nursery for his 4th birthday, which is being held at home. I don't know the mum's and invited the children because DS reeled off a list of names. Two other children from his nursery have confirmed they are coming - one of whom's party my son has been to and one who I have had a brief conversation with his dad before.

Party is two weeks on Saturday and is being held at home. I am in the process of buying/wrapping up thank you presents and pass the parcel treats.
Shall I assume they aren't coming and not count them - I don't want to chase them because I don't know them!?

If anything, I would assume that they are coming.

They may have the reply slip at the bottom of their book bags, or their parents have told them to verbally tell ds that they are coming...

Tis better to have left over treats and presents than not enough - you can always put them away for next year.

Actually that's a good idea - I have enough gifts for the original list of people anyway.

Perhaps I am just a bit peeved 'cos I always reply to RSVP's - also I still give a present to a child if for some reason DS has not been able to go to a party we had previously said yes to.

I do the present thing as well.

Some parents just don't reply though, so maybe they are coming but just haven't told you.

We've had children just not turn-up without saying they weren't coming. It's a pain as you have to assume they might still turn up.

The DSs are upset at the time, but seem to forget.

I don't ask parents if their children are coming once the invites have been given out.

Nope, assume they are not coming and if they do turn up say something like

"OH my goodness, we weren't expecting you (turn to partner / family and say) Could you just nip to the Co-op, we haven't enough food to go round with these unexpected arrivals!" so as to totally humiliate them and shame them!!! (I am cruel!)

If people just turned up that would seriously annoy me - especially as i don't know them.