We need to RSVP to an invitation to an October wedding next week.
I can definitely go because I've been able to confirm time off work however we can't say for definite about my other half. He usually works night shifts but then got furloughed, went back to work for 4 weeks doing evenings and is now furloughed again and his company may he making redundancies.
Put yourself in the bride and grooms shoes. Would you prefer?
A) have a RSVP "yes" for both of us (then behind the scenes we'll do all we can to get his time off work sorted. Risk = he can't sort it and his place has to be cancelled closer to the time)
B) have a RSVP yes from me and no from my other half. But then closer to the time he gets work sorted, so we let them know to see whether it's possible for him to attend.
I've already mentioned to the bride who is my friend that we're struggling with his work. I would feel bad saying yes then being unable to sort something but I think we should be able too! I don't know whether to do that and sort it behind the scenes, say no or be upfront and say we can't confirm so what do you want to do? But then that's putting pressure on my friend that she doesn't need...
Ugh, I'm overthinking this I know