Tuxedos? Matching flower girls?

[PavlovtheCat]

I am having a stress on about my wedding.

getting married in a cave (not like deep underground, very romantic, no hard hats involved), having a party in the gardens of a beautiful cottage in Cornwall, marquee, BBQ, guitars playing, barrells of beer, sort of unconventional wedding (as you would guess being in a cave!)

Plan was, suits for the guys, smart casual for everyone else, not expecting ladies to wear hats, expecting people to bring comfy shoes!

Flower girls, I was going to let the parents just get something nice, they are flower girls mainly to give them something to do, getting basket of flowers to hand out to guests that kind of thing. One adult Bridesmaid wearing a stunning dress from monsoon reduced from £145 to £40.

Anyway, had MIL on phone stressing about it all. She wants all the men (ie family members, best man) in tuxedos, and all the flower girls to wear matching dresses. I held my head in despair, however, as I was doing so the image of the men in tux's and matching flwoer girls running around my feet came into my head, and it did look good (esp the men bit!)

So, Tuxedos, or whatever the guys feels comfortable wearing? Matching dresses or pretty dresses of the parents choice?

NO NO tuxes
no mathcy matchy
say all grils in white or pale gren orwhataver
adn they cna do what they like

search.ebay.co.uk/bhs-bridesmaid-dress_W0QQ_trksidZm37QQfromZR40QQssPageNameZRC0021

loads of cheapo dresses hre

adn it snot as if you spenad al day standign in a luimp
id speicuifty a vague coloru or fabric

Dogsby - thank you...I almost got sucked in there! Thats the response I wanted

Can I say, for fear of being considered a cheap ass - I was looking at the great dresses in Sainsbury's, they do them in ivory, pale pink, or ivory and coffee...£15.00 each.

And of course a wonderful monsoon outfit for my own DD, she does not have to match either!

And of course I am waiting for more responses to the contrary... to help persuade me otherwise...

I love your typos Dogsby - you have not been drinking having you

you can do tuxedos if you want - most men look ok in black tie. Don't make them wear matching waistcoats, bow ties etc though.

you could ask flower girls to wear white dresses but wouldn't bother with anything more specific.

Mrs - My DP actually wantrs to wear Southern Gent type of thing.. like the bloke from The Killers - he is wearing cowboy boots no matter what...its his american side coming through...
To be honest, Mostly I do not care what they wear as long as he turns up! But, every now and then I get pulled into the wistful childish fantsy of a white glam wedding. I even cought myself looking at the most enormous merangue dress the other day wondering if I made a mistake in the dress I got!!

Oh god - you just reminded me of waistcoats, they have to wear waistcoats with tux? Oooooh noooo nooo noo, no way

i htink white with gren sahses is pertty then you an get them lily of the valley or plain green ad white flower things

i ahda pomander flower ball thing when iw as one i 1978

do they do corsage type flower htings for little girls?
then they dont haev to HOLD it

They are having little wicker baskets with flowers in rather than corsage or bouquet...

waistcoats def not essential with black tie

I like the white with green sashes
wrist corsages are good as you can't brain your brother over the head with them

yes id bin the basket
s they weill use them as weapons

also tip the petals into the registar's shoes, chew the handles etc

Mrs - phew I got very worried for a moment there .

I like the gree too, it will go with the rest of the decorations theme. I am having candles and ivy across the front stage whre we take our vows, and hand picked flowers on each of the aisle seats, not decided what depends on what we are able to pick nearer the time.

LOL - you think? You are probably right...and it means I dont have to try to find 4 of them!

Your wedding sounds like it'll be soooooooo nice.

Likin the sound of your DH's style

a bright green gerbera maybe?