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Parties/celebrations

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party clash ettiquette - need mn jury

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hatwoman · 02/03/2007 09:07

we've accepted an invitation for dd to a party. about a week later she gets another one, same day, from a closer friend. the first party, unusually, is 4 hours long. 12.30-4.30. the second one is 2.30-4.30. would it be awful to leave the first one early and go to at least part of the second one? Both invites are from school friends so in part I'm worried about there being a mass exodus from the first party leaving some poor kid on her own. also I guess it's not really on to turn up late if there are any sort of activities arranged? I should probably just leave it at going to the first one shouldn't I?

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pooka · 02/03/2007 09:12

Fraid so. Such a shame that the second one is on the same day.

TrinityRhino · 02/03/2007 09:13

Does the other mother know about the clash, is it far enough away to change the day. I would ring and see if she realised, I would be gutted if I had accidently done that.

nogoes · 02/03/2007 09:31

I would go to the first one as you have already accepted the invitation.

Ceolas · 02/03/2007 09:32

Why on earth is she having a 4 hour party anyway?

ghosty · 02/03/2007 09:34

I agree with Trinity. We had a similar clash ... 4 boys that DS was friends with were planning parties on the same weekend (DS's party was one of them). One of the mothers rang me to tell me that we were clashing with another party. So I rang that mum and we sorted it out (I changed to afternoon as I didn't have any specific entertainer booked or anything - just me and a pinata )
There were some knackered kids at school on the monday I have to say

ScummyMummy · 02/03/2007 09:35

Agree with TR- can you ring the closer friends mum in case she's not realised?

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hatwoman · 02/03/2007 09:35

good question ceolas - leaves us with the choice of leaving her for 4 hours with adults she doesn't really know - which could turn out to be a very long time. or hanging around. (in which case the 4 hours will seem particularly long...)

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ScummyMummy · 02/03/2007 09:36

And ghosty.

fflibble · 02/03/2007 19:02

Unfortunately I think you have to go for the first party, and although it might seem like not such a fun experience on the day, it would be setting a slightly dodgy precedent for your dd to pick up on the fact that she can pull out commitments to friends as soon as something better comes along.

I think I'd go with contacting the second mum to see if it's not too late for her to choose another time, if a lot of people will have already accepted invitations to the first party and she hasn't realised there'll be a clash. (If she has realised there's a clash, and there's a bit of a competitive/popularity thing going on, all the more reason not to go along with it IMO.)

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hatwoman · 02/03/2007 19:08

that's a good point fflibble.

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WideWebWitch · 02/03/2007 19:11

Agree go for first party as you've accepted now but let second mother know about the clash.

paddyclamp · 04/03/2007 22:19

What did you decide to do?

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