Baby shower .... When?

[nervoussam]

How many weeks were you when you had your baby showers? Is there a "proper" time to have them? I think it's a bit strange to have them too early but looking at how dates lie, that might be the case for me, hence asking for the consensus.

Thanks all!

[curlywillow]

what this thread should at least show is that whilst you might want a baby shower, at least some of those invited will think it a grabby american concept. From this list of 20ish replies you've had three positive responses which includes the OP. Not a high success rate.

[GastonsPomPomWrath]

I've been to several baby showers (none of us are American) and can never understand the scorn around here. I'm just happy to celebrate with my friends.
Its not grabby, we don't do lists, usually everyone chooses a consumable item like nappies for example then buys a big box of those, another will do wipes and so on.

When the baby is born, we get something for the mum or the couple. Or provide our services, cooking, cleaning etc. It works out in my friendship group.

Anyway, most mums at the baby showers I've been to are 35 weeks + and have already started mat leave. Enjoy yours op, i hope you have a lovely day.

[ImYourMama]

My friend is planning mine for when I'm 30 weeks, it's my first baby and very much cherished and we're looking forward to the chance to get all the women in my family together. No gifts and only paper based games. Enjoy it OP and ignore the fucking miserable Mumsnet 'pearl clutchers'

[QueenImprov]

My sister threw me a baby shower at 7 months, a bit early, but it's only time she could make. At least if it's earlier, baby is unlikely to arrive before it happens. At my baby shower, some people brought gifts, others didn't, it's not always about that (it wasn't at mine), but a nice way to spend time with your friends/family before baby arrives. It was a lovely afternoon and I would ignore other posters and enjoy yours. I certainly wouldn't do a list and don't know anyone who has.

[Charmander90]

I had mine at the weekend and I was 32 weeks. It wasn't something I wasn't something I initially wanted as I hate being the centre of attention but all my friends and family kept asking if they could throw one and I relented. It was a really lovely afternoon and was full of all my close friends and family, there was no expectation of gifts and we played a few silly games but mainly ate. It was nice to have everyone together and see people that we hadn't seen since telling people and who we probably wouldn't have seen for months after baby is here as they live in different parts of the country.
All the showers I've attended have been for close friends and family and so it's never been seen as 'grabby' more of an extra chance to celebrate the baby that's coming. Most have been between 30 and 35 weeks op. Ignore the haters, if it's something that is done in your family and circle of friends then people won't think twice about it

[clam]

Oh my God! That cake!!!!

[curlywillow]

I love that cake

[DillyDingDillyDong]

I'm not from America. I would say that baby showers seem to be very popular now. Only on mumsnet have I see that people don't like them, I love going to them. I love buying baby things!

I didn't actually want one because I didn't want anyone to feel like they had to buy something and didn't want to be centre of attention but I did choose to have a baby gender reveal party! After a couple of years of awful news on both sides of the family and multiple miscarriages we wanted everyone to get together for something positive. Everyone who came said they had a lovely time and finding out such big news with special people is definitely something I look back on fondly.

Hope you and your sister can work out a date and that you have a great time with your friends and family

[clam]

A gender reveal party?! What the hell is that?
"Listen everyone. It's a .....boy!
"Listen everyone. It's a .... girl! < loud squeals from guests>

[Sparklingbrook]

I think there has to be a cake that when cut is blue or pink inside. Something like that anyway.....

[clam]

I wonder if there's ever been a gender reveal party where it turns out to have been wrong. Do the guests get a refund on their gifts?

[Buzzardbird]

Totally innapropriate gender reveal cake