How much is the average Hen party?

[mharimay]

One of my best friends is getting married in January and her sister is organising her hen party.

I have just received a message on the group letting us know what we will be doing and the cost etc. I would absolutely love to go as having an 18 month old and being at home a lot on my own now a night or two away with friends sounds like a holiday to me!

BUT they have decided to go up to Newcastle for the event for two nights in a hotel and a weekend of activities and then two nights of dinner and drinks.

My friends sister has put the cost for the activities and hotel and then entry into a couple of well known clubs at about £190 so far. This not including travel up there from London (£60 return) and then I would need money for meals out and drinks so I guess what I am looking at is a price of around £350!!

A lot of the girls going don't have kids or families and work full time so they were probably expecting that kind of cost and are quite alright with it. I just don't think it's something I can afford as gutted as I am to admit it! I would need to pay the £190 ASAP to confirm my place and then have the rest ready for when we go at the end of October.

Is this quite a normal price for a hen weekend these days?

Do I write on the group that I can't go due to not working full time and not affording it or who do I tell? I can't tell the bride because it's all a big surprise

Any help would be appreciated on this

I think this is pretty normal these days. Hen's are now usually a weekend away, and so I would expect that kind of price to be honest :( It's probably best to tell your friends sister directly if you can't go. Maybe you can do something separate with the bride closer to the time.

i understand how you feel, I wouldn't be able to afford it either!

Thanks I'm glad someone can feel my heart break haha! As my partner is working all the hours god sends and I'm doing a 12 hours per week I just can't justify such an expense and think it may end up stuffing us later in the month.

I'm going to send her a message sooner rather than later. Cant believe how much everything is once you start adding it all up!