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Should she have invited dd2?

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emkana · 15/11/2006 19:16

I have a friend whom I have known since dd1 was a few months old - met at toddler group.

We used to see each other every week, over the last couple of years much less, maybe once every two months. When we do meet it's at the park or at home, and our dd's play together - my dd's are five and three, her dd's are nearly five and nearly two.

Her dd1 is turning five this Saturday and is having a party. Dd1 is invited, dd2 isn't. Dd2 is a bit bewildered and upset by this because she thought that this girl was her friend as well. I think my friend believes only dd1 should go because she's closer in age to her dd. But it's at a soft play thingy, so it's not an activity that's only suitable for older kids.

I just feel sorry for dd2 really. Am I being unreasonable?

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happybiggirl · 15/11/2006 19:19

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HuwEdwards · 15/11/2006 19:21

Emkana - my DDs are 5 and 3 and yes this sort of thing happens all the time with their 'mutual' friends. Difficult, but life - so it appears.

kid · 15/11/2006 19:21

When DD was invited to a party at a soft play place, I checked with the parents if I could bring DS and pay for him myself. They were fine with this, but on the day they actually paid for him too as some others hadn't turned up.

happybiggirl · 15/11/2006 19:22

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Mala · 15/11/2006 20:51

When I invite my friend's who have children I do pay for both siblings. If it is a sibling of one of dd's friends from school, then I wouldn't invite them, as I don't want to pay for a sibling I don't know.

I do think you friend has only invited your older dd as it would be expensive for her to pay for siblings as well-these softplay centre's can be very expensive.

Like kid mentioned, you could ask your friend if you could take your younger dd and pay for her yourself-though ofcourse this would mean that she will prob.not be included in the birthday tea.

Mala · 15/11/2006 20:52

I do think you friend has only invited your older dd as it would be expensive for her to pay for siblings as well-these softplay centre's can be very expensive.

Like kid mentioned, you could ask your friend if you could take your younger dd and pay for her yourself-though ofcourse this would mean that she will prob.not be included in the birthday tea.

nearlythree · 15/11/2006 20:57

I would ask your friend if dd2 can go and that you will pay for her. My dd2 was left at home tonight when dd1 was at a party, there was no reason for dd2 to have been included in this one but it is hard for them.

nikkie · 15/11/2006 23:11

Sometimes I take the other one to a soft play party (and pay for them to play/buy tea) in this case I would have invited both kids and can understand why you are annoyed.

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