Small Christening Service

[Mumstheword14]

Hi there, any help with this matter would be much appreciated.
My OH and I want to get our little boy christened. Unfortunately both sides of my family despise each other and the thought of having them all together fills me with dread. Any time they've been together has been a complete disaster so all birthdays and Christmas are now done 50/50.
We've put off getting our son christened because of this but I would really love him to start going to Sunday school, as well as go to the CofE school near us. You don't have to be christened to go but I would really like him to feel part of the church community and to grow up with Christian morals and values.
My son is three now.. so we're planning to go ahead but not tell either of our families. If my partners family come and any of my family members get wind of it there will be some serious fallings out.
So is it ok to have a ceremony where it is just child, parents and godparents? Or should I just bite the bullet, get everyone together, knock back some wine and hope for the best

How sad - but of course it's ok to do parents, child and godparents in your situation. I'm not religious but if a christening did matter to me then I would want it to be a special day with no worries about family fallings out and to be able to concentrate on the spiritual aspect of the occasion.

Thank you for your reply :)
I kept worrying at the prospect of everyone being together. I would be run ragged trying to keep everyone at peace and make sure neither side were feeling left out, and that is just not what the day is supposed to be about.
I feel bad that it can't be a big happy occasion with all of his family and friends present but it's just one of those things I suppose

But it will be a small happy occasion- enjoy it for what it is and try not to think about what you would like it to be in an ideal world. I'm sure it will be very special