Help! Old Macdonald theme DD(3) insists on being a fairy..

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DD 3.5 has been invited to a party on Sunday with an Old MacDonald theme. She's refusing to wear the plaid shirt, jeans and straw hat that I had hoped would suffice as a farmer's outfit and is adamand about going as a fairy.
I'm 32 weeks pregnant an frankly can't be a**ed doig anything too onerous costume wise. Any suggestions?????

can u compromise and put her in what u want her to wear but with wings on?

dont you know the verse. Old Macdonald had a fairy, ee ii ee iii oooo

with a tinkle tinkle here and a tinkle tinkle there....

I was considering making her a farming fairy. All the bling but with wellies.......
Fecking 3 year old girls.This is a glimpse of my future re short skirts, bras and make-up!!
Lol at the tinkle tinkle - she'd end up going for a pee as that's the preferred euphemism in our household!!

Let her wear the fairy costume ... who's going to complain? Life's too short to worry about who wears what to a childrens party.

WWB - that's my preferred option but I feel that I need to at least explore someother possibilities - or just have my referred option vindicated by the wise women and men of mumsnet!

just tell her she can't?

Starlover - I know what you are saying but that's
not an option without catastrophic meltdown of a type that I realy can't face at present. We are not generally wussy parents, honest!
As WWB sugested - no one is really likely to give a toss, I suppose. I'm a fan of picking the battles about more important stuff like sleep, food, manners and suchlike.
Just was wondering about compromise/win win solutions that I hadn't thought of.

i guess... i just remember being hugely upset when i had a pyjama party as a child and a friend came in a nightie instead!!! lol

but maybe that's just me

I'd go for fairy with wellies and neckerchief OR farmer with wellies. How about an animal with wings for the farm - butterfly maybe?

I used to hate it when people didn't play properly, too! Dunno if 3 year olds would be too traumatised by the memory, though
It's actually a party at "The Singing Kettle" stage show (huge here in Scotland). The whole show is Old MaDonald themed so she may just look like a twat in front of an auditorium full of people while dh and I drink coffee and eat biscuits in the foyer.....

she's 3 .. let her go as a fairy fgs

who on earth is gonna care??

DS is 5 and wears his power rangers costume no matter what the theme ... last one was a princess (and prince) party .. here comes the power ranger .. ROFL

butterfly is a good idea actually... and you could take the farmer outfit just in case when she gets there she wants to be like everyone else!

If anyone complains about it, it says more about them than about you. Kid's parties are meant to be fun - no-one's going to have much fun if you force her to wear something she really doesn't want to wear. It's not a battle worth fighting, imo.

Twig - I'm not averse to that at all.It's the no hassle option. If I add wellies and neckerchief per Hula's sugestion then I suspect we may have a win win!

I wouldn't worry too much about other children/parents. Most of the ther parents have probably been there with their own children at some point, and if they haven't they are likely to have it in the future anyway! And the children at that age probably couldn't care less.

DD had a "royal gala" theme dress up for her party. One boy came as Obi-Wan Kenobi. His mum says it was what he wanted and insisted. No one minded at all!

LOL! I suppose part of the joy of these things is checking out the kids and parents that for various reasons couldn't/wouldn't "comply" with the dress code!
Fairy bling, wellies and kerchief it is. No doubt we'll get some very empathetic looks!
Hell, my kid likes to be an individual and not, appropriately enough - a sheep!!
Thanks for the help/advice/comments!

my favourite children at these dress-up parties are invariably the ones who are following their own drum

From experience she won't look out of place at all, a lot of kids don't dress up at these anyway. Plenty fairies on farms anyway (just look in the hedge rows.

I would force her to dress up in the "correct" outfit, its supposed to be fun, dress as a pregnant fairy and enjoy yourselves, personaly I would recommend ear plugs, takes it down to a dull roar you can almost handle .

Oh Spub let her go as a fairy.
I have just written 30 invitations to DD's knight/princess b/day party and put "costume optional" on them as IME some of the girls would turn up as princesses any way (I mean without the theme) and plenty of the boys won't want to bother. But if they do then they can. Or some as a pirate/power ranger/whatever.
DD almost certain to be Cinderella (sigh).
I think a handy pair of wellies might be a good compromise!

I agree, let her go how she wants ... life is too short to argue over this ...
My DS refused point blank to wear costumes at fancy dress parties until this year (he is 6 now). I never made him - didn't see the point. The recent 'thing' here has been face painters at parties and he has also always refused to have his face painted ever (except once I managed to persuade him to let me draw a gruesome scar on his face for a pirate party).
I quite like the fact he is so sure about what he wants and doesn't just follow the herd.

A fairy it was!
Everybody was happy; especially me as I made her daddy take her whilst I enjoyed a 32 weeks pregnant afternoon nap style couple of hours!
Thanks for the usual sensible advice!