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My boys started primary school 2 weeks ago. Along with the whole of the Reception class (30 strong) they were invited to, and gratefully accepted and attended a 5th birthday party today, at a playbarn, for 2 school mates they hardly know.
The birthday boy's mother said the following to me:
"You will soon learn that it is ettiquette that all children in reception invite the whole class to their birthday party." I nearly choked!
I think I will be breaking ettiquette!
PS. Plus......how rude and presumptious is that?

Hugely rude.
I have 3 dcs, and have nevr been daft enough held a party for more than 6 or 7 friends.
In Reception, a few did, but most didn't, and, tbh, there was no 'keeping track' of who did what as far as I'm aware.

Well that's one less party bag for you! I would say about half have a whole class party in either yr1 or yr2. Some have no parties, some have little parties throughout and a larger number have half class parties. Dd1 we did a joint class party in reception. Dd2 is a quieter soul, we had all the girls and 4 boys, which was half the class. This year she just wants 3 friends.

I do enjoy organising their parties, but smaller parties just means more complexity, so still fun!

I think it is fairly common to invite the whole class in reception. Certainly when
DS1 was in reception the whole class had invitations to all parties. Last year when DS2 was in reception only one party didn't have everyone there. There were lots of raised eyebrows about it.
Obviously it's not compulsory I think it's just about not leaving anyone out and about small children not really understanding if they are not invited.