So do you invite your dc's friend if you don't get on with their parent?

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My immediate answer would be yes. Not the children's fault.

But I'm going to have to be polite, welcoming and do friendly chit chat. And I don't want to.

Ds1 birthday next month. We're having a party at home for him. He wants to invite 4 kids that I don't want him mixing with-but only because of their parents. The kids I have no problem with at all.

I know I sound horrible. But the parents are horrible and don't want my ds end up being invited round to their houses because I wouldn't allow it.

Wwyd?

what is wrong with the parents? I like all my DC's friends parents. Are they rough?

Invite the kids and make it crystal clear on the invites that it's a drop-and-run affair. You have no problem with the children - and it's not, after all, your party - so you invite the children.

They are beyond rough

He's inviting other kids, not just the 4 I can't decide over.

Parents smoke weed, let their dogs shit outside school and not pick it up, swear at their kids in the playground, they're dirty ad scruffy, theyre mouthy, don't work and don't want to...... Etc. I could go on.

I sound like such a snob-I'm not really. We're just too different to get on, I have tried but I can't relate to them at all.

That's still no reason why you can't be sufficiently civil that you can say "Hi Rough Little Jimmy! Come in!" and to the parents "Thanks - see you at 4", and they'll go off on their dog-shitting way. It's far less big a deal than you're making it.

What hassled said! Why are you making this such a massive issue?

I think my main issue is firstly if they want to stay and secondly if ds gets invited to their house.

Its not a big issue as such, just a wwyd?

I would invite but make it fairly clear that there was no need to stay. I would also be busy if a return invite came my way.

Agree with others - just invite the dc, and let parents know they can collect them at {insert time}. I wouldn't not let my dc invite friends to their party just because their parents and I were never going to be buddies.

I would invite the children and make it very clear on the invite with a drop off and collection time.

How old is your DS? Where I live, once they are school age most people drop off anyway. Have a contact sheet at the door ready for people to put their mobile numbers on and you won't even have to let them over the threshold.

If he gets return invites and you don't want him to go just say you're busy.

I stayed with my DTs till about 6 although they had delays. Left my DDs about 5. Some may stay if they are reception or year one age and that should be OK. I always asked first though and they seemed happy and loads of parents stayed. I invite whoever DC want but I would just make excuses if they wanted to go somewhere I wasn't comfy with. I am not judgy and they have been to houses some I know call rough but it wasn't that that put me off it was the ones who let their kids wander the streets at very young ages that put me off no matter what the background. Just make excuses if they invite DC back and you are concerned. I would let them come to the party though. I wouldn't like parents other than my friends or friendly aquaintences round to my house so have always had parties elsewhere.