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3yr old party invite dilema

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3duracellbunnies · 08/07/2012 21:07

Ds will be 3 in September, parties are a big thing in our house, and he has decided that he wants one too. We have a smallish house + garden. He has chosen a guest list of 4, 2 boys and 2 girls, and a theme (well themes). Not prepared to go for a big hiring hall party yet. Trouble is I seem to be the only one who wants it in the week, the girls (5+7) and dh want to be there too.

Obviously parents will need to come too, just wondering what to do about siblings. The older sibling of girl A is one of dd1's best friends, but there are also two other siblings in her family, who miss all of my children's year groups. Older sibling of girl B is dd2's best friend. Older siblings of the boys are same year group as dd2, she does know them but they are in different schools, went to different preschools. Ds knows the boys best but will be at nursery/school with the girls.

I can just about imagine having the invitees plus one sibling each to 'help', plus one parent, but is that really rude to family A (only dd1 has been invited to parties, and only for her friend)? I just can't see how I can squeeze 13 children in for what is basically a little party and a small invite list. It would be fine if warm enough for the park, but can't guarantee that in September. I know that two of the families would have dificulty coming on the weekend if they needed childcare for the older ones. Oh and ok not to invite godparents plus their children who are all similar ages to the girls, but 3+ yrs older than ds?

Next year am prepared to consider bigger party, but seems to soon, so any ideas? other than my rejected idea of a little party in the week and a daytrip with the famil

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stealthsquiggle · 08/07/2012 21:15

Joys of second and subsequent DC. I caved and let DD have the big party in a hall that she had planned for her 3rd. [not helpful]

3duracellbunnies · 08/07/2012 21:33

Definitely not a hall, half the time he says even these friends aren't his friends anymore, another joy of having big sisters around! Might discuss it in abstract with the other mother, pose it as wondering whether to invite girl and dd1 friend - that's a positive yeah? She may be glad to divide and conquer! 4yr one will be party planning nightmare, bulge class means we already know who most of his class will be, all have multiple older siblings, some of whom overlap with mine, some don't, which is why I thought to go small this time.

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stealthsquiggle · 08/07/2012 22:10

I think his friends and a couple of carefully selected older siblings "to help" would be fine. It would establish a precedent of DDs having 1 guest each and being expected to help - worked well with my DC.

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