We are in the process of booking DS fourth birthday party at a local farm/soft play place. It is huge and can easily amuse a whole family for a whole day. We have a large list of people who have to come and will come (NCT, old neighbours, old friends wih kids) and a smaller list of nursery friends. We can afford to pay for all the kids but although accompanying adults are at a very reduced price, they are not included with child entry as part of the package. Lots of our friends will turn up as couples as we would expect. I think I will have to ask parents to pay for themselves and although I feel odd about it, I can't justify the expense otherwise. Just so you don't think I am being mean, the cost for 20 kids is £230. If they all come with two adults, the additional cost is just shy of another £200. All the kids get fed, the adults are fed too, there will be cake and party bags. There is no time limit on entry so they can arrive whenever, stay all day and have free run around the place for a max cost of £9 if two adults come. Am I being mean? I don,t mind if people think I am, I feel a little mean. My friends won't mind, but I don't want to upset the parents of the nursery kids. Thanks for any advice.