Should I buy a wedding present despite......

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...the fact that the invite says that they have everything they need, so spend the money we would have done on the race night that they have organised for the reception instead (proceeds aid their footie team of which they are BIG fans).

We're in the fortunate position that money isn't an issue for us, so I feel a bit tight turning up empty handed.

I haven't actually met the couple in question before, but she's become a very good friend through another of these forum things.

What should I do, and if you say 'take a present' then can you suggest what?

buy them some chickens, or a goat.

Do a Charity of their choice donation perhaps.

bottle of Champagne perahps?

lol FTINY - had visions of me turning up with an armful of chickens before I realised that you meant one of those charity things!

donation to the footyteam?

I'd do a charity donation as well - do they have a favourite charity that you could make a donation in their name to?

Either charity donation, or a bottle of bubbly... We asked for money for our wedding (yes, I know, pistols at dawn ), but one person brought champagne - for osme reason it seemed much more special because we weren't getting anything else present-like.

I would respect the couples wishes, it's their day after all. If it's not something you are comfortable doing then write a cheque for their football team and pop it in their card. Remember though, presents are funny things and you may embarrass rather then please your friends.

Thought it was only polite to update you all on what I did in the end, as the wedding was last night.

They'd organised a race night for the evening entertainment, with proceeds going to the footie team, so we made sure that we placed loads of bets which we had an uncanny knack of losing, and bought one of the horses in the auction for the final race.

I also gave them a small and unconventional gift this morning of some digital pregnancy tests, as they've been trying a long time and she's currently taking clomid, so I'm hoping that they will prove useful early in their married life!

Oooh, I like that