Tell me I am being paranoid.

[cori]

DS started Nursery in September, he enjoys nursery but doesnt seem to have made any real friends yet.

I have noticed lots of Birthday invitations going around but so far DS hasnt recieved any.

I am worried that he is going to start to feel left out. Not a nice way to start his school career.

I am also wondering what to do about his own party in February. It happens to fall on a teacher training, I thought I might be able to get a special deal at a play centre and invite the whole class. Or would that look a bit weird if he hasnt been invited any parties himself.?

Getting more paranoid now

No idea - sorry... not at the right age! I didn't want you to feel lonely and paranoid though

Try not to worry too much about it. The other children may already know each other.
Definitely invite everyone in class, it's a good way to break the ice.

i have had the same thoughts about my DS... it is easy to worry about this... I would do as you plan to -- invite everyone... sometimes nursery kids comes from other groups where they knew each other before - hence the invites... and I really do think 3 is a bit too young to be making proper friends... I bet most of this is Mum/Dad friendship led... that is what happened with my DS anyway and I intend to believe that!!

I would say it is probably because the parents of the other children already knew each oterh. IME party invites at nursery stage are more about Mums knowing each otehr than a reflection on how many feinds the child actually has when playing there. Get chatting, and inviting a child and Mum round, or to meet in the park, if you can!

dd started Reception in September, one of 2 joining an established group of 14. It felt a bit like that to begin with. We've had some invites and not others but I'm not fretting about it yet. ds hasn't had any yet - he's 7 - but think most of the b'days are later in the year and probably smaller gatherings rather than whole class invites.

Definitely invite as many as poss to your own one, and give plenty of notice.

Seem to think this might be the case too, but my concern is that the mums and kids getting to know each other at these parties so the same kids keep getting invited.

Most of the mums seem quite different to me, younger, and more SAHM types, I work 3 days so dont get a chance to 'talk' at the school gate much. I am 15 weeks pregnant though, so that will soon become aparent and might be a talking point.