URGENT HELP NEEDED...party....who the heck do I invite?

[katierocket]

sorry in rush but could really do with some thoughts/advice on this one.

DS is about to be 4. He has just left one nursery and started at new nursery school where he's not yet made any definite friends (he's only been there one week). We have booked an entertainer person to do games etc but she seems to think that a minimum of 10 children is preferable. At the moment we have 7 confirmed (old friends) so I'm wondering whether to invite anyone from new nursery school.

If so, do I invite everyone? (as said he's only been there one week so really doesn't have any definite thoughts on it).I think there is 20 in the class although someone else said there is 13 so that wouldn't be as bad (as presumably some wouldn't come anyway).

Do you think it's odd having a load of children at the party that he doesn't really know or that don't know each other? or would it be a good ice breaker for them?

wish I'd never said he could have a party!

oh I should add that I am picking up a list of children from the school tomorrow so I should have idea of how many there actually are.

great ice breaker. if you dont want the whole class, ask the teacher who he seems to be playing with most and invite them

Hi

I think it would be nice to invite maybe a couple of kids from new nursery. Are there any in particular that he plays with? Could ask the staff at the nursery.

Was going to suggest the same as Jenum71

well that is what I would normally do but he's only been there one week and it's only mornings so don't think he's really played specifically with anyone. I can't really wait much longer than Friday to give out invites because that would only give 1 weeks notice of the party.

If you ask the teacher for a couple of names of the children he socialises with more, you could invite them and help form friendships.

Myabe don't invite any from the new nursery unless you think you can cope with all of them.

You said you already had 7 and minimum was 10? Do you know any other kids, friends kids that you could invite - sorry to state the obvious!

yes I think I will ask the teacher if there is anyone he seems more interested in, like I say, because he's been there such a short time I'm not sure he has really made a friend yet.

I think if they all turned up it would be a bit tricky but ok.

Jenum - no, apart from new nursery we have invited all his current friends (a few can't make it, which would have taken it to 10)

Oh well Katie, just a thought!

I hope you manage to sort it out! We ended up having all my eldest sons classmates to his party at home last birthday - never again!

I'm hoping he will ask for a bowling type party next year!

Anyway, enjoy it whatever you do!

crikey, how many was that?!

I'm also a bit stuck because if we do end up wiht more than 15 children I really need to find a venue rather than have it at home.

Blimey, I think it must have been about 24 in the end!

Thankfully the weather was nice, so we hired a big bouncy slide thing which was great!

If it had rained?! Doesnt bare thinking about!

yes just ask his immediate group (assuming they;re in a group)

ds has just moved school and only wanted 3 of his "old" friends no new ones to his party thing but he is 9 which does tend to change things a bit

When ds started school he got an invitation to a party the following weekend- the whole class went and no-one thought it was odd. They all loved it, made them feel like they belonged. I think if you can invite at least some it would be good. Hope he has a lovely time

thanks tamum
lovely to see you on my thread

I'm going to get a list from school tomorrow so I know how many children there are. I thought there were 20 in his group but someone told me today it was possibly 13. We already have 7 coming so have to see what happens. I guess it gets easier as they get older as they're more inclined towards birthday trips out etc with a few close friends.

kr, when ds was nearly 5 he started school and didn't know anyone so I hired a hall and invited the whole class. It was 30 odd, plus friends from pre-school. Most of them came, it was good so if it's an option I'd do it. Plus, and this is REALLY selfish, I'm almost embarrassed to admit it, eeek, we got so many return invites that we had many a Saturday to ourselves for a few months! Definitely worth it as I was a sahm at the time and loved the break!

thanks www, that's very reassuring.

DD1's 4th B'day was in the summer hols between playschool and reception and in the end I just phoned round the new girls parents until I had the number I wanted for the party. It worked really well and was a good ice breaker. The mums all stayed and it was a good chance for us to get to know them over a glass of wine also.

When DS changed schools I invited the whole class and a few from his old school. He had been getting a bit of bother at the new school so it was good to put faces to the names. The biggest bully was the one left at the end on a dark rainy night with no one to collect him. Spoke volumes.

I thought it was a good way to make him feel part of his new class and i have to admit i went a bit OTT with the party to make sure it was a hit.

OK so I have the list from nursery school and a venue (local church hall) so fingers crossed it all works.

Good luck! I'll cross everything for you!